Comment from DP

[BrunosTheorem]

Sat together looking back at pictures from a holiday last year, in let’s call it “Fandangoland”. On a nice picture of me, I said ah that’s a nice picture.

DP: “Yeah everything looks prettier in Fandangoland.”

Me: You what?

It was a nice picture and frankly I could do with the morale boost nowadays! DP tells me I’m imagining things and shouldn’t take the comment personally. I don’t normally make a bit thing about how I look but that felt hurtful. AIBU in thinking that wasn’t a nice thing to say?!

What an idiot. Even if it was a "joke" just totally unnecessary. It's not much to ask for your actual partner to be nice to you surely?!

I should add, I’m not normally someone who’s invested in my looks at all – my usual attitude is who cares, it’s not important. But confided in him this morning that I’m feeling a bit rubbish at the mo. I may well be being oversensitive.

This seems a little out of context. Perhaps if we knew more of the situation?

I really wouldn't feel his comment was anything to get too worked up about. It was probably meant to be witty /light hearted.

You were on holiday, probably relaxed and maybe had a holiday glow - that might have shone through in the photo - hence you particularly liking the photo and him making the comment.

I would only get worked up about it if he regularly puts you down/ tries to bring you down.

There’s not really much to know! We’re sat having a drink. In fairness I’m feeling pretty depressed and oversensitive about everything at the moment. Usually I would have laughed it off.

In all honesty I’m feeling a bit horrified by how I look right now (unusual for me, I’m usually not bothered about anything like that at all and sort of find it daft to get worked up about such things – so to an extent I know I am surely BU). It was really nice to see an objectively nice picture and it upset me to hear that snap assessment of it. Maybe IABU.

Thanks @WishingOnACarrot he’s really not like that at all.

Oh OP , I do feel for you. It's hard when you're not feeling yourself and feel sensitive.

If he's not normally like that I'd talk things through with him and explain to him how sad you're feeling. Tell him what you've told us.