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AIBU?

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Neighbours playing the radio/music in the garden

18 replies

Kentorbust · 10/10/2020 12:40

We live in a terraced house with narrow gardens. Our neighbours seem to move into the garden from April to September and they’ve set gazebos right up against our fence. They sit in there from about 10am to 7pm smoking, drinking and playing music or the radio all the time. They also have a couple of dogs who patrol the fence and bark at us whenever we are out. They send them inside for 5 minutes then let them out to start the barking again if we do much as move a muscle. Because the garden is narrow there isn’t anywhere to sit without hearing the music.

We have been using the garden more during lockdown and we feel that had pissed them off as they have stopped acknowledging us in the street.

I’ve never lived with people who played music all day and it was really beginning to get us down. AIBU to ask them to turn it down/off so we can enjoy the garden without Country and Western or golden oldies blaring out?

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SchrodingersImmigrant · 10/10/2020 12:42

Are you already preparing for the discussion to have next year?

Yanbu to ask but tbh they don't sound like they will

TheQueef · 10/10/2020 12:45

Get some headphones and save the row.

CatMagic · 10/10/2020 12:51

Honestly, I wouldn't try playing a fair game with them. It's not in their comprehension. Just complain about the noise when it gets too much. Keep a diary. If nothing changes move. But don't leave without trying. These people rely on others backing down out of fear.

FedUpAtHomeTroels · 10/10/2020 12:56

I'd just carry on and do my own noisy stuff outside. They have no room to moan about anything you decide to do seeing they have tried to monopolize the outdoors. Let them keep sending the dogs in and letting them out, as they bark at the fence. Maybe put your music on a bit earlier than them see what happens.

Marisishidinginmyattic · 10/10/2020 12:59

YABU only because asking people like this only makes this worse. It’s a case of shut up and put up and try and make the best of it by not worrying about your own noise levels.

You’ll know if they’re reallt shitty neighbours when they kick off about your noise but expect you to put up with theirs though 😂

AmIACowBag · 10/10/2020 13:13

OP my neighbours garden that runs along mine have a bar, summerhouse, gazebo and hottub they have parties every fri and sat until 2am some nights. Your neighbours stop by 7PM what are you moaning about.

LouiseSP82 · 10/10/2020 14:53

I can't believe they have stopped acknowledging you! I am with you..noisy neighbours are such a pain..and for pretty much the whole day too!

Skysblue · 10/10/2020 15:13

Yanbu but the problem is they are clearly awful and don’t care about annoying you.

To be honest I would seriously consider a house move if that is at all an option.

Macncheeseballs · 10/10/2020 15:17

Amiacowbag, just because you e got it worse it doesn't mean op can't complain, jeez mn would not exist if we followed that rule

Brunilde · 10/10/2020 15:21

It's unfortunate but if you have adjoining neighbours you will hear them in the garden. If the music is ridiculously loud then ask them to turn it down, but if it's a normal level there's not much you can do. They have every right to enjoy their garden too. If you can't stand hearing your neighbours, move to a detached in the middle of nowhere.

movingonup20 · 10/10/2020 15:24

Yanbu but we all have the right to enjoy our gardens and I for one play music in mine (not the time I work!) Being reasonable about noise is a hard one to navigate but I would suggest you in a friendly way approach it and mention how it's disturbing your enjoyment of your garden so could they keep the dogs from barking and the music not too loud. Don't ask for no music as that's quite unreasonable as that means they can't enjoy their garden

HandfulofDust · 10/10/2020 15:26

If you can't stand hearing your neighbours, move to a detached in the middle of nowhere.

It's possible to enjoy your garden without doing stuff like playing music 247 which is obviously going to irritate your neighbours.

dottypotter · 10/10/2020 15:29

some people are so selfish/

Floralnomad · 10/10/2020 15:29

I don’t think music until 7 is unreasonable , if it’s too loud just ask if they could turn it down .

user1471538283 · 10/10/2020 15:30

This really annoys me. Everyone knows if they are being too loud. They know it but they don't care. They need their need for loud music trumps yours for a quiet life and it doesn't. When you live in close proximity to others you have to be considerate and make compromises. It's not up to the OP to move in a "detached house in the middle of nowwhere". Its for the noisy neighbours to. I would complain but I doubt things will change. I'm not surprised they are ignoring you. They know they are in the wrong

Mycatismadeofstringcheese · 10/10/2020 15:33

Do they own or rent. We managed to curb noisy neighbours by complaining to the landlord. (Managed to get his number through a chance encounter so appreciate not easy). Before that our council has a noise reporting app that we were using to log a pattern of behaviour.

TrickorTreacle · 10/10/2020 15:37

I was going to put YABU, but when you wrote country & western / oldies at the end, I put YANBU!

tigger001 · 10/10/2020 15:51

If I were you, I would just be reasonable to begin with, knock on and see what's what.

Why are people so quick to think the worst, yes that may be the case, but at least ask the question first.

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