New job, new start

[MsKeats]

I've posted on here before for other things. I have DC who all go to outstanding schools but currently a 3 hour round commute away. It's horrible and not sustainable. All the DC want to move nearer to our family.

Ex is an areshole -hasn't responded to any solicitors letters about me going "home" back to where my family is over 200 miles away. He lives around the corner.

I do a niche job. Applied for a job that came up in this niche in "home city" -to my shock I got it. So now in the process of getting children into local schools in new area (one sorted by sheer chance into an outstanding school) and others to be confirmed on Monday. These schools are a 15 minute walk from my parents house where we would live temporarily.

Ex hasn't replied to the 6 solicitor letters asked him about my potential move. He wouldn't reply to the 5 calls this week I made asking him to discuss my job offer and how we can make access work -he replied "text me what you what to discuss" so I did and he wouldn't and hasn't replied.

EA have valued the house -going on the market next week.

Parents are viewing two houses this week for me.

It's totally EEK EEK EEK. It's actually happening. In 2021 we will be moving -oh my giddy aunt. I can't believe it.

Amazing, well done! Start of great times for you. Hope you get stuff with ex sorted, he sounds like an arse but you have plenty of evidence you have tried to sort things out. 🥂 for you

@MsKeats
Love your MN name, are you are fan of John Keats poetry?
Your ex is not just being unco-operative, he's downright obstructive.
He is the DC's father & you are giving him respect in keeping him informed, but he doesn't deserve respect. Could you move the DC to a new location without his consent? It sounds like you have done all you can to keep him in the loop & he is choosing to ignore this. Well done for finding your new job, thank goodness your parents are supportive. Hope it all works out for you and yours.

@carreterra yes big fan of the English Romantics. Legal advice is I have brought it up enough times and although he could apply to court to stop me - via a prohibitive steps order - it would not be successful. The DC and myself have health conditions including anxiety caused by his abuse of the years (the court gave us protection of a restraining order 12 months ago as he kept dragging me to court) best served by living close to home and relatives. He refused to pay half of childcare costs despite a court order asking him to - so financially I need the help. A letter was sent 8 weeks ago saying the job hunt was on could we discuss it - he replied saying ‘already discussed’ he was asked what he was referring to as we had no reply, email, letter etc and he replied saying ‘I’ve already addressed this’ etc and so on back and forth 6 times eventually we used the term ‘gaslighting’ as there is no reply he’s just being himself. He will lie to your face and say he’s not on the phone whilst talking on the phone - he is that type of person. All very very real. House to pack up and sort.