AIBU to not be happy.....

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Help me please wise women in my phone....

I am getting virtually no sleep... because of a new born you ask.... if only it was that simple!!!

BECAUSE of my partners horrendous snoring it's driving a massive wedge between us I'm constantly grumpy, he's saying I'm causing him massive anxiety about it blah blah blah it's goes on!!

Saying I'm unreasonable because I should just suck it up, be ok with it..... essentially not taking ownership of the issue.

Anyway help what have you done that works? We've tried white noise to drown it out, a tongue sucker thing and little plug devise for his nose. I've even spent nights on the sofa which doesn't help as I can still hear him.

I'm a lot a loss and planning on going to stay at my mums for a few nights just to sleep
So other than leave him/ bury him what can I do?????

Make him see his GP and if he doesn’t then leave him.

If he doesn’t care enough about your sleep and your health to even try and address the problem then it’s not someone you should be with anyway.

He’s being very selfish and that’s not good.

He can't help it - he's asleep.

But he damned well should be off to the GP for investigations into any underlying physical causes, and googling for self help measures.

Smothering him with a pillow is tempting, but is not a fair form of self help.....

But yes, either he should sleep on the sofa or you should go away for a few nights because a few nights better sleep will do you the power of good

Is he overweight? Does he have sleep apnoea? Does he sleep on his back? Have you tried going to bed first or does he still wake you?

There’s probably a few things you could try before you have to LTB

Oh OP, I feel for you, and your DP, because I snore (apparently not too loudly but my DP is a poor sleeper) and I feel terribly terribly guilty about it, and embarrassed, and know it's not necessarily easy to get to the root cause. I think the important thing though is that he tries all avenues to get to the cause and try and alleviate it, but there's probably no single instant fix. If it's a weight issue, he should address that, or for many many people it's sleep apnoea. In my case we think it's just generally narrow nasal passages which are a bit inflamed with pollution/ irritants, and I have a prescription nasal spray, and also use the Breathe Right strips, both of which help, and my DP also wears earplugs. Just mentioning those in case they are also helpful for you and your DP, depending of course what is causing his snoring, but you both have my sympathies as sleep is so important. Good luck getting it sorted.