Period sex.

[earthtopluto]

Had a coil fitted and I'm bleeding in to my third week now. Normally I would be open to period sex if it was light but its with a new fella and it's not my typical bleeding. It's not nice, it's clotty and black. Definitely not sexy and can't see any guy being cool with this. Are there any solutions? Was thinking about a menstrual disc but there doesn't seem to be anywhere I can get one from today. Have a feeling I will just have to wait. Feeling frustrated and tired of this horrible black blood.

I’m not sure that heavy clotty blood is normal even post coil fitting... can you call the nurse or clinic that fitted it?

I've spoken to them and been prescribed tranexamic acid to slow it. They've done an ultrasound and it's all in the right place. They just said everyone reacts differently. It's old blood because it's black so not fresh bleeding which is reassuring.

I think it sounds quite unusual and you really need to have it checked. I certainly wouldn’t be having sex without the advice of a medical professional.

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Also try this in a health topic, it sounds wrong you may get better replies.

You could use a sponge, but get one designed for it. You can get them loads of places, google beppy or sponge tampon.

I'm so fed up with it. It's definitely knocked my confidence

The beppy sponges are amazing for this. Put it in pre sex, remove afterwards. You can order them on amazon.

But I would suggest you do check to see if anything else is going on too.

So many women have problems with the coil, I don’t know why anyone would willingly have it fitted, especially as medics can be very reluctant to remove it.

I think you’ll have to wait OP. I can’t imagine your new partner would be happy to have sex in this situation.

I had problems like this at the start of my current relationship as I was bleeding constantly on the mini pill. I used (and still do sometimes when I’m on my period ) those menstrual discs. I’ve tried a couple of brands- Flex and Soft Disc. They were both much the same but at the time Flex was only available on a monthly subscription which made it less convenient. Soft Disc I could get on Amazon but they were more expensive.

They worked really well, no leaking and I felt confident and comfortable using them (after getting used to how far you need to push them in and up... lube helps!)

Hope you get it all sorted soon! It’s just so annoying and exhausting.

It really is miserable

@earthtopluto At the start of a relationship you just want to explore new things and have fun together.. it’s all new and exciting and I totally remember how frustrating this was!

Sounds like you’re talking to your doctor and that they feel nothing major is going on.

I know it sounds a bit daft but have you thought about using it as a chance to explore other things? It’ll give you time to look into ordering the discs and also hopefully getting the bleeding under control. I recently had a UTI that was making sex feel uncomfortable but I still really wanted a lovely evening in bed with my boyfriend. I sent him a sexy text about how I thought the evening could go without full-on sex (probably too explicit for here but I’m sure you can figure some stuff out!). It ended up being really relaxed and sensual and I don’t think either of us felt like we missed out!

The main thing is that you are feeling healthy and continuing to talk to yourself doctor if it carries on much longer. The other stuff will work out I’m sure