Firstly nothing will be booked or planned until corona is over even if that means waiting until 2023. So that is not a consideration right now.
For background I am British living abroad, DP was born in the country we live in but 70% of his friends are in the UK (he went to school and university there). We would like to get married in the country we live in and i'm trying to decide if it would be unreasonable to ask my family and friends + his friends to travel here.
This is our home, we love it and his family own some land here that would make a perfect venue. The wedding would be pretty casual so no need for expensive outfits, all food and drink would be paid for, for the evening before the wedding, wedding day and breakfast the morning after. We can probably even find space for a lot of the guests for a few days either side of the wedding provided they're happy on random beds, sofas, with DPs parents etc.
The catch is we are between 8-12 hours flight away depending on the route taken and even at the cheapest time of year (when we would have the wedding) flights are in the region of £400.
There would probably be about 30 guests invited from the UK that's including those with set +1s and children. Others would be 100% welcome to bring a plus one or even plus 2 if they'd like. Total guests invited would probably be around 60 but a good 50% of the guests who aren't from this country probably wouldn't be invited if we got married in the UK more a case of they are friends/extended family who as we are here may as well enjoy the party/are being invited to be polite rather than people we would really miss.
The other question is would it be ok to ask my friends to be bridesmaids, I don't want to pressure anybody into travelling if they don't want to an worry asking them to be a bridesmaid would do that.
So my AIBU is: Am I being unreasonable for even contemplating asking people to travel that far to attend my wedding?