To think I'm gonna loose my best friend?

[freddyloo]

I've always had relationships with men.
Except for one girl a year ago.
Anyway my best friend has a boyfriend of 3 years.
He's a control freak,accuses her of cheating,opens dating profiles to check on her etc.
Last night he said to her
"I know your obsessed with "me" there's something going on,you want her"
"Who you texting ?"me"

I feel sick ..I know she's going to stop meeting up with me because of him.

She's my best friend,I don't fancy her.
She's my friend

I'm really upset I'm going to loose her

Anyone ? What can I do ?

Tell your friend (In person) you are going to come on to the boyfriend. Then say to the boyfriend you think he’s super sexy. Like you are into him big time. Then at least he won’t see you as a threat to taking the girlfriend. In all honesty, a terrible option but an option none the less.

It's just a pathetic situation.
I fancy men 98% more than girls anyway.
There's only 2 girls I've ever liked.

He's going to try every dirty trick in the book to isolate her from your support. This is just one. It's nothing to do with you fancying women, and everything to do with him being a controlling bastard. He doesn't think you fancy her, he doesn't care if you do or don't. If this doesn't work, he'll move on to his next tricks: you're a slag, a bad influence and any other misogynistic bollox lies he can come up with.

Do not make it look like you fancy him ffs. He'll use that against you too.

She is in an abusive relationship. Educate yourself on this dynamic. He will do anything to make sure she is totally dependent on him without your support. You are his rival because you are her support and window to normal. What you are or do doesn't actually matter. He doesn't think she fancies you, or that you fancy her. He'll twist anything to fit his agenda. You could be a virginal saint and he'll twist it.

Your choice is to either keep quiet about him being abusive and possibly (probably) lose her or tell her he's abusive and direct her to support and possibly (probably) lose her. Weigh up what will help her most long term - there is no quick fix.

Unfortunately, your pain at losing your best friend is a secondary consideration.