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Too old for a career?

49 replies

Diadora30 · 08/10/2020 12:20

I’m currently undertaking an access to social work course, with the view of stating the Social Work degree at university next year. At that point I’ll be 40, and 43 when I qualify.

Do you think I’m too old? My youngest will be at school next September. I’m aware that I’ll probably be one of the older ones on the course!

Has anyone done anything similar?

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BramblyHedge · 08/10/2020 12:23

You wouldn't be at the university I work at. Over half our social work students are over 30 and a third of those are over 40.

BeBraveAndBeKind · 08/10/2020 12:26

No, I don't think you're too old at all. I know someone who qualified at 50 and worked as a Social worker until they retired in their late 60s. You could have a good 20+ years in the job and bring an awful lot to it because of your life experience. When you think about it, that's almost the same length of time that's passed since leaving school so definitely worth it. Good luck!

Skyliner001 · 08/10/2020 12:26

No you're not.

Lockdownseperation · 08/10/2020 12:26

You will still probably be working for another 23 years after that so definitely not too late.

seayork2020 · 08/10/2020 12:27

No never to old

mindutopia · 08/10/2020 12:32

Definitely not. I had a colleague (who was much more senior than me, obviously) who went back to uni/work when her youngest started secondary school. She got a PhD. Retired as a very senior professor at a very good university last year. She's enjoying retirement now, but accomplished a lot in those decades after she went back to work. Realistically, you'll have another nearly 30 years of working, so might as well do what you want.

AriettyHomily · 08/10/2020 12:34

No.

Diadora30 · 08/10/2020 12:36

Thank you for the replies, they’re reassuring!

I don’t want to feel washed up before I’ve even started. I’ve spent most of my adult life raising children, working in the health field here and there when I could. But now is the time to actually think about what I really want to do. Just worried I’d missed the boat!

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lljkk · 08/10/2020 12:37

Life is not over when you're 43. Or even 63.

RubyReigns · 08/10/2020 12:37

I’m doing something very similar! Starting a part time degree this year and hoping to finish it within 4-5 years to be finished just before I’m 44.
You’re never too old to retrain.

Powerplant · 08/10/2020 12:42

Go for it I qualified as a nurse just before I was 49. I thought of social work but then decided to train as a nurse instead. You’re never too old good luck and have a wonderful career!

slashlover · 08/10/2020 12:44

I hope not, I'm doing a degree part time through the OU and I will be 45 when I qualify. I think of it that I will have 20+ years of working life left at that point.

lidoshuffle · 08/10/2020 12:44

I did a post-grad course (not social work) at 60, and I wasn't the oldest on it.

40 is young, with 30years of work ahead of you!

RealityExistsInTheHumanMind · 08/10/2020 12:54

Social workers with 'life experience' are much better in my opinion than most youngsters who have never been out of 'learning'. Academic learning is brilliant but life experience counts for so much in real life. Plus whilst some clients relate better to someone young others feel more reassured by someone with more life experience.

Northernsoullover · 08/10/2020 13:01

I am 48 and will finish my degree next summer. I am the oldest on the course but only by two years. I already have a job in the field I am training in.
What would happen if you didn't do it? You'd still be 43 whether you do it or not.
Ageism does exist in many fields but in others being older in years is a distinct advantage.

user1493413286 · 08/10/2020 13:02

I’m a social worker and there are lots that start at your age; the life experience is a strength

foodtoorder · 08/10/2020 13:03

Definitely not too old, life experience is also valuable particularly in social work!

niceupthedance · 08/10/2020 13:13

I qualified at 42!

Cumbersome · 08/10/2020 13:17

You’re not too old, no, but do bear in mind that work feels much, much more tiring when you get into your 50s, in particular post menopause. All the posters in their 40s excited at the prospect of two more decades of working life are likely to feel very differently when they’re staring down the barrel of their final decade...

Northernsoullover · 08/10/2020 13:48

@Cumbersome sadly I have little choice. If I have to work until I drop it makes sense to do something that excites me.

Raver84 · 08/10/2020 13:52

I'm 4 weeks into my social work ba and I'm 36, so far I'm loving it. Please don't let age put you off though I'm older than most on the course I'm not the oldest and there are many mature students in sw.
I alwo work in social service a lot of sw went in as a second career.

EmmaGrundyForPM · 08/10/2020 13:55

Of course you're not too old. I qualified as a social worker when I was 25 and looking back that was far too young. I had almost no life experience.

If you qualify in your early 40s then you have 25 years of work ahead of you.

Go for it - it's an amazing career and you wont regret it

corythatwas · 08/10/2020 13:58

Depends @Cumbersome. I'm 56, have spent the last few years kick-starting my fading career after years as a carer and am really excited at the prospect of 10+ years doing my best work. Energy levels are not lower than they were when I was in my 30s and confidence a lot higher. Both my mother and I gained new levels of energy after going through the menopause.

Cumbersome · 08/10/2020 13:59

@Northernsoullover I understand that. I need to earn a living too. My point is that what ‘excites ‘ you at 45 will exhaust you at 55. Better to focus on the effort/reward ratio very carefully.

Cumbersome · 08/10/2020 14:02

@corythatwas Point taken. My perspective is that of a woman who has worked in demanding roles without a break for well over 30 years. I guess if professional success is a novelty you might have more appetite for it as you age.