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Original poster

Is this reasonably or nay.

25 replies

CallmeFP · 07/10/2020 15:41

Is it fair to expect a nearly three year old girl to not sleep in the day at all (even if tired) so bedtime at 6:45pm goes smoothly.

If she has a nap in the day she will not go down at 6:45.

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smilingparakeet · 07/10/2020 15:42

I would say 6.45 is a bit of an early bedtime for a 3yo .

TORDEVAN · 07/10/2020 15:43

What time does she get up?

My just 3 year old goes to bed at 7:30 now. Wakes up about 7 and doesn't get that tired. If we're out and she gets tired she has a quick nap in the car but still goes to bed on time. If she naps from boredom on a lazy day at home that does effect bedtime.

Original poster
CallmeFP · 07/10/2020 15:51

She wakes up at 5:45 on the dot every morning Sad

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LST · 07/10/2020 15:52

I wouldn't say that was too early at all. My 8 and 6 year old are in bed 45 mins later on school nights and I need to wake them both up at 7.15 every morning

Randompersonisme · 07/10/2020 15:53

My 3 year old is awake 6.30am-7.30/8pm with no naps.

At 6.30 she is no where near ready to sleep.

What time does your daughter get up?

Randompersonisme · 07/10/2020 15:54

If shes awake about 13 hours a day then I think that's about normal.

My dd dropped her nap about 2 months before her 3rd birthday.

Thirty2andBlue · 07/10/2020 15:55

My 3 yo doesn't nap. Goes to bed at 8pm and wakes anytime between 5.30 and 7.00. won't entertain an earlier bedtime Sad

FTMF30 · 07/10/2020 16:00

6.45 is a very early bedtime imo. Although I do think 3 is a reasonable age to drop naps.

INeedNewShoes · 07/10/2020 16:05

My 3 year old DD dropped her nap at 23m (much to my disgust!) and since then bedtime is any time between 6 and 7:30pm depending on what we’re doing.

She generally wakes up between 6:30 and 7:30am.

It certainly sounds as though your DD might be ready to drop her nap fairly soon but it seems a bit cruel if she’s tired and wants to sleep during the day to force her to stay awake. In that scenario I’d continue with the nap but maybe reduce it to one sleep cycle (40 minutes) then bedtime at 7pm.

Royalbloo · 07/10/2020 16:58

I'd change bed time to later, say 7pm, and let her have the nap

Royalbloo · 07/10/2020 16:58

Sorry, 7:30

Original poster
CallmeFP · 07/10/2020 18:57

I think I’ll do that, thanks all. MIL thinks it’s cruel to not let her nap. So I’ll try a later bed time.

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Findahouse21 · 07/10/2020 18:59

Could you let her nap but limit the time if she's really struggling - for instance no more than 30 mins and to be awake before 2:30pm

Idontgiveagriffindamn · 07/10/2020 19:03

7:30 for a 3 year old seems so late. My 7 year old is in his bed reading by 7:30 and lights off at 8 as are most of his friends.
If an earlier bedtime works for you then go with it.

Mlb123 · 07/10/2020 19:10

I think if the 3 year old really needed to nap during the day then it would be extremely difficult to stop them from falling asleep and they would be extremely ratty. The fact that a daytime nap means they go to bed later on an evening means that they are fine to do without a daytime nap and 6:45 is a reasonable bed time for a 3 year old and it's also understandable for a parent to be ready for a break by then after 12-13 hours of caring for a young child and it is obviously working out well that way so it's a yanbu from me X

HandfulofDust · 07/10/2020 19:11

Mine both dropped naps at around 3 but 6:45 seems very early for bed. Why not let her nap and put her down at 7:30? If she still won't fall asleep by 7:30 it's probably time to drop the nap.

Merryoldgoat · 07/10/2020 19:14

Why are you putting her to bed so early?!

Oysterbabe · 07/10/2020 19:23

My nearly 3 year old goes to bed at 7:30, same as his nearly 5 year old sister. He's nearly ready to drop his nap, he has it some days but not others.

CharlieCoCo · 07/10/2020 19:26

Mine napped til they naturally grew out of it. If shes tired why have a miserable afternoon just so she goes to bed at 6.45 when she could have a little refresher nap and an enjoyable afternoon.

RandomMess · 07/10/2020 19:26

It depends what works for you rather than MILs opinion on it being cruel Confused

One of mine napped at 3 but the other three didn't...

DrWAnker · 07/10/2020 19:30

My now (end of Aug) 4 yo dropped the nap just as lockdown started.
He goes to bed at 7pm and is awake between 6-7am.
He sometimes needs a little nap at the weekend if it's been a busy week.
And to begin with he'd nap every 3/4 days and go without the rest of the time.
Don't worry about your MIL, do what suits you and your child.
I say that as someone who listened far too much to others with my first child. It's been far easier with number 2, possibly because we just do what suits.

justasmalltownmum · 07/10/2020 21:07

I don't think it's an early bed time, as she wakes up so early.

If she's tired, I would let her nap.

mumtobabygilrl · 07/10/2020 21:16

DD 3 doesn't nap in the day anymore, we start bedtime stories at about 6.40 and usually in bed by 7. It works for us and she's tired after a busy day at nursery. Sometimes it's 7-7.30 at weekends. Do what works for you. We couldn't keep ours up much longer she would get over tired

ellentree · 07/10/2020 22:02

At that age, if my eldest napped (even for 5 mins) she would go to sleep until after 9 so I wouldn't let her nap! I think you know your child best and do what works for her, you and your family.

ComicePear · 07/10/2020 22:04

Two of my three DC had dropped their naps by age 3, but the middle one still really needed hers. So it depends on the child.

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