My son is very nearly 2, he lives with me full time and then sleeps over at his dad's house one night per week. It was two nights during lockdown, but as he and his parents (who he lives with) are back at work, it's now just one night. He often works long and unsocial hours, not on a set schedule every month.
Pre-lockdown, he had DS to sleep over one night and picked him up from nursery another day and brought him back just before bedtime.
When DS was born, his dad was on an apprentice wage and was only making about £800 a month. He sends £100 maintenance per month (sometimes £90), but I'm sure in two years his wage will have gone up, we don't talk a lot unless we have to. Most communication is through his mother.
Prior to September, I worked from home but now I'm at university full time and my course also requires me to do 12+ hour shifts (which he and his parents know), so DS is in nursery full time which is bloody expensive, as I'm sure you know! I'm paying for nursery.
AIBU to say to his dad: either pay more maintenance or have DS more often?
I'm very nervous to say anything, I was thinking of sending it in a text but I don't want to ask if I am BU.