Fed up of feeling fed

[FlippingFedup]

Name changed just in case.

I am so fed up of feeling fed up,

I lost my job around 6 months ago ( I was sacked over something I didn't do) I am now claiming benefits. I have always worked and always had a little bit of spare cash every month, Now, because I don't have either of these things, I am so fed up. (The reason why I'm not working doesn't help, and the situation goes round and round in my head) I feel like I am moping around like Eeyore. I find it difficult to "play happy" whenever I speak to friends and family, It drains me trying to keep up the charade. I am on my own all day, and I feel so alone and bored, I feel like I could cry at the drop of a hat and I am fed up feeling this way, What can I do to snap out of it??

Ia there any redress for being sacked for something you didnt do? Union?

@BlackbirdFirst I appealed at the time, It wasn't successful, I could have appealed further but, to be honest, It was literally driving me insane. It took so long for the appeal to go through, I just wanted to move on from it.

What are you doing about getting another job?

I ask as this seems to be your issue for being fed up? Too much free time and lack of funds.

If you are anything like me, too
Much free time means I go round in rings all day over thinking everything.

@NancyBotwinBloom I am actively looking for work, have applied for everything I am qualified to do.

I am definitely an over thinker. The worst thing is, The day all this happened at work, It was supposed to be my day off, I offered to go in to cover illness, So all I can think about is if I didn't go in that day I would still have a job, money and some sort of life. And I hate the thought of people thinking I am something I am not, and I think that bothers me more.

So. What it is that you didn't do. ( I'm not asking you to explain on here) Can you fight it? Will it make you feel better if you can prove otherwise? If you can prove otherwise do you have a case for wrongful dismissal?

I mean what will make you feel
Better about this? Putting it aside if you can or does it mean to much to you that you need to be proven right?

Either way, for now, get a new job (I know this is a lot easier said than getting it done)

What have you tried so far? Maybe people on here can help or look at ways you haven't tried?

Just trying to help.

I think it would help if we knew a) what you were alleged to have done and b) what your skills are - as they could be transferrable to other roles

Structure is brilliant - although you aren't working at the moment, treat your day as though you are.

For example:

7/8am - get up, shower, dress appropriately
9am-12pm - job hunt, apply, use LinkedIn, do some upskilling etc
1-2pm - lunch
2-5pm - get outdoors, exercise, go for a big walk
5pm onwards - you're off the clock, phone friends, use social media, do a jigsaw or whatever makes you happy. Eat well.
10-11pm - bed

It's very easy to fall in between the cracks of normal life when it's suddenly taken away from you (learn from my unexpected redundancy mistakes), but you have to continue with purpose, injecting your own.

Good luck! Chin up, this too will pass.

You may be doing this already, and it won;t change the job/finance situation, but get up every morning and go out for a long walk?
Exercise is really good for helping you not feel down, and a sense of routine may be positive.

I have found doing this helpful when I've been in similar situations.

Give this a go - no need to keep up a pretence in the way that you do with friends or family
www.frazzledcafe.org/

cross posted - two 'go for a walk' in 30 seconds, sorry!

Part of my job was to deal with inbound/outbound post. My colleague asked me to post a parcel which was a regular thing for clients, which I did, I didn't know what was in the parcel and assumed it was for a client. Nope - It was an item that belonged to the company and the address was my colleagues daughters. So, I was dismissed for theft as they said I knew what it was and who it was for. I had no clue. My colleague told them I knew what it was and I encouraged her to do it. I honestly had no idea, I just took the parcel along with genuine client parcels and arranged for them to be collected as normal.
I just keep thinking had I not gone in on my day off, it would have been my colleague who arranged the post that day and I wold still be there.

My skills are pretty varied - I have worked in retail as an assistant, supervisor/key holder, hospitality (Hotels), Facilities management, schools, been a cleaner, call centres, and a delivery driver, So I have a lot of transferable skills. I apply for anything.

I do stick to routine as much as I can,

I am up and dressed by around 8.30 as I have to get DC's to school, and also pick them up. I used to hate the school run, Now I live for it lol. They aren't at an age where they can walk home alone, so I fit my jobs in while they are at school. I walk the dog every day, clean and tidy around the house, do laundry etc. I look every day on job sites and apply for at least 1 job a day Its such a tough time at the moment, and also having to explain why I am no longer working for my previous employer doesn't exactly help with the job search.

I had a similar situation, a few months ago I was fired for theft that I didn't do. Another colleague was very vocal about wanting my hours and then she reported me for theft (she was the one stealing but I couldn't prove it). Unfortunately I hadn't been there long enough to have any real employment rights, I got a lawyer but the stress was too much for me. My mental health suffered hugely and my confidence was knocked so much. I hated people thinking I was a thief and having my name dragged through the mud. Today I had my first job interview since then and it went really well, it's a huge confidence boost. I know it sucks right now and I can't offer any real advice, just hang in there and eventually something will come along

What is your dream job? What steps can you take to get there? Having a goal might help you to feel less fed up

@ShelbyCherryBlossom How did you explain to the interviewer about the situation that happened at work?

@Cornishmumofone I wouldn't say it was my dream job( but then I don't know what that is lol), but I did really enjoy it and it paid well.

@ShelbyCherryBlossom Also, well done on getting an interview, Good luck with getting the position .

@FlippingFedup I didn't mention it, I wasn't employed there for long so didn't think it would've been beneficial to talk about. I only mentioned the job I did before that and the occasional summer work I did for a friend's business. And thank you! I hope I get the job!

@ShelbyCherryBlossom That's fair enough. That's a clever idea.
I was with my previous employer for 6 years and on the track for promotion.

In your position, I would consider the following:

• Look for some temporary/agency work - an employer may be more willing to take a chance if they know they can easily terminate a contract.

• Do voluntary work - I know you don't get paid but you are doing something and you can get a reference

• Think of setting up a company and be your own boss

Don't despair though - once you get back into work, this unfortunate episode will become more and more distant and you won't have to explain what happened each time you move jobs.

Thank you everyone for all your lovely advice.

I received a phone call yesterday re a job, I explained my reasoning for not working at the moment and she was lovely about. I am just waiting for a date to attend a group interview...eeek!!