Am I being a cow?

[LikeClockWork]

Namechanged.

My husband has two children with his ex.

They stay with us 50:50 and mum works nights when they are with us.

The children have basically asked whether their dog can come to our house with them when their mum works.

My husband seems to be all for it, I've said no. For the following reasons:

We've had her stay a couple of times before. Whilst she's a lovely little dog, she's very old and messes on the floor a lot. I spent the times before cleaning up wee and poo off our carpets.

We live in rented accommodation so it's obviously a risk having a dog messing on carpet when it's not our house. Not so much because of it being against the TA as we have pets ourselves and the landlord has always been fine with this but obviously we don't want them ruining the place.

We have our own dog who is very young and a bit boisterous so I don't think it's fair to have this elderly dog and them together multiple nights a week.

And lastly, I just don't want two dogs. It's not once or twice, this is literally half the week. It's crazy enough as it is with all of us and our pets now, nevermind cleaning up after an elderly dog who's probably scared to death from being in a random house half the time with another dog she doesn't know (she's partially blind and deaf!).

I'm being made to feel guilty because she's on her own at home when ex works though and the kids would like it.

Would the kids pay for the lack of deposit when the landlord tries to scalp as much as poss?

No.

Just no. Tell them no.

I wouldn't have someone else's elderly, incontinent dog in my house regardless of who cleans up.

As a one off favour, perhaps but not habitually.

I don't even get the issue. The mum works nights and surely then the dog will be perfectly happy in it's own home/bed. It's not a puppy that needs 24/7 supervision. The mum will be at home to walk and feed it during the day.

YANBU.

Well i was all ready to tell you YABU as I would normally have any animal at any time but you are absolutely not being unreasonable at all! It strikes me that everyone else is putting what they want before what the poor old dog probably wants. She's old and not got all her faculties so she should be in familiar surroundings it's not fair to cart her around, especially around a young boisterous dog (which are often lovely but a pain in the arse). You're thinking of the dog, they're thinking of themselves.