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To avoid in laws.

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marmite79 · 06/10/2020 15:21

Hi all, the in laws haven’t been taking covid seriously for a while. By in laws I mean mil, her partner and my partners siblings who live at home still.

It’s all parties, pubs, gatherings with no social distancing. Unlikely to be within the rule or 6. One of them went abroad and didn’t do the isolation period. They’ve also always got someone staying in the house - drunk mates crashing, family members from other parts of the country too! Parties at their house.

Now all of this is their choice but aibu to avoid them? We are vulnerable as such but DS has autism and he’s already had a covid test once. Trying to minimise the risk of catching the virus.
I really don’t want to go their house. It’s not very clean either. Can’t imagine they regularly disinfect heavily touched areas after people staying there.

I’m also trying to take precautions so I can spend time with my grandma who’s recently become widowed.

Mil is upset she won’t see the kids for a while but aibu to think if she wants to they need to take it more seriously?!

I’ve told her that maybe she can come over here and see the children but no one else (can’t with rule of 6 anyway)

Do I sound like an ass for wanting to protect my family? I’m not working currently. Partner works but in a low risk job!

Would you do the same?

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ArnoJambonsBike · 06/10/2020 15:24

I wouldn't let her near the kids, even in your own house. The chances she will catch it from her own home are pretty high from what you say, so she'd only be likely to bring it to your home.

weathervane1 · 06/10/2020 15:24

I don't think the issue is you wanting to protect your family as much as her not wanting to protect the kids. If she and others want to break sensible rules, then the result should be obvious. Imagine if your children were one of the minority who do succumb to Covid and got seriously ill or worse, ... would it have been worth her careless behaviour then? Obviously not.

contrmary · 06/10/2020 15:27

Protect your family. She can weigh up the "benefits" of her lifestyle against the drawbacks it brings. In the meantime she can have access over Skype to see him.

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