I don’t want to feel like this

[Sue531]

I won’t waffle on I’ll just get to the point! I intensely hate this particular person. She was a very toxic friend I’d known for years but last year I decided to stand up for myself and cut her off. Our kids ended up in same school so I ended up seeing her on daily basis! I just want to carry on like she doesn’t exist but she’s always in my face. Whatever time I do drop off and pick ups she’s always there. She’s very immature. I don’t want to describe her behaviour as I have spoken to people in RL and they’ll know it’s me writing this. I just cannot stand her. I know it sounds ott but she wrecks my mornings when I see her. Why the hell did our kids end up in same school. How can I ignore her and not let her get to me.

I dont have the answer but I am very keen to know what it is! There is someone who I see (not daily) who I have called Mood-Kill. The best way is just avoid and avoid.

Honestly it sounds like it's your problem and not hers. Doesn't sound like she's doing anything to you but you're coming across as a it obsessed with her.

@QuestionableMouse
Yes and the op is asking how to deal. You clearly haven't met a person who does this to you yet lol

Well it’s hard to give advice with so little info but you seem to be taking her being there at drop offs and pick ups as a personal affront when she’s there to drop off and pick up her child, the same as you. Short of sending a partner, friend or family member in your place, you’ll have to deal with it. And the only way to ignore her is to continue ignoring her. Take some earphones, even if you’re not listening to music, to give off the impression you can’t hear her (or switch them on so you actually can’t hear her). If she comes near you, move away. If you know any of the other parents, enter into conversation with them so it’s less likely she’ll try and intrude, or arrange to be on a phone call every pick up so you’re too busy to concentrate on her.

[quote DrManhattan]@QuestionableMouse
Yes and the op is asking how to deal. You clearly haven't met a person who does this to you yet lol[/quote]
No I have but I figured I was letting them spoil my day and got over it. Life's too short to be weighed down by shit like this.

No I have but I figured I was letting them spoil my day and got over it. Life's too short to be weighed down by shit like this.

How tho? If she just picked up kid and left I wouldn’t care but she tries to wind me up with snide remarks and says things to her daughter but wants me to overhear her! Others have noticed this too and asked me what’s going on.

Ignore ignore ignore.

She will tire of it eventually.

Go in very late or very early?

Ignore and she'll soon get bored.
I don't involve myself with groups or others at pick-up/drop-off. I say hi and have a quick chat to the odd parent but I don't stand with particular people or in a particular spot at these times like so many do.
You could perhaps stand at the other end of the gate, just generally away from the gobshite until your dd appears?

You're giving her power over you by letting her upset you. If you think fuck it, I'm over her and take no notice of the remarks she'll soon get bored. You're in control of your emotions, not her.

Try killing her with kindness. Be super cheery and sweet and watch her sweat while she tries to figure out what you're doing 😂😂😂

Arrive just in time for doors opening in the morning and about two minutes after doors a open in the afternoon. No need to stand around listening to her then. I managed to do school run by stealth for ten years and never had any of the issues you see people post about on here

Earphones and sunglasses and stick your head up high and walk straight past ..easy! Sorry can;t talk in a rush if she approahes you or get your phone out and have an imaginary conversation so you can;t engage. She willget fed up before you do if you stick to it !!!

Also breakfast and afterschool clubs are ideal tools for avoidance I found!!