My H and I split up 2 years ago. It was not a hugely acrimonious split. We sold the house and split the money. We both moved to nearby locations. He wanted 50:50 but couldn’t deal with the school runs and work so did EOW and tea on a Wednesday. There was no child maintenance needed (I earn way more than he does).
He’s always struggled with health anxiety and depression (and being a lazy, selfish, self absorbed twat). He coped really well over lockdown and actually had DD 50:50 whilst on furlough (I was still working full time from home). Then 7 weeks ago (apparently now working from home) he left and went to spend the week with his parents 180 mikes away. He’s not come back. He won’t say when he’s coming back (he has apparently just signed a rental agreement on a new place in the next village over to his current place up here). He hasn’t seen DD for 5 weeks (she went to stay when he first left in August as he was supposed to be taking her on holiday). He says he is worried about losing his support bubble with his parents if he comes back. He has no underlying health issues and is a healthy fit 40 year old man.
DD wants her dad. I can’t explain this to her. I can’t tell her what’s going on because I don’t know, he won’t tell me. He hasn’t even spoken to her for a week and a half as last time he spoke to her she questioned him on when he was coming back. She’s sad and scared and not sleeping and I am SO SO angry with him. I’m not being unreasonable am I? He really is being a total dick isn’t he? Anyone got any idea how I best deal with a very upset abandoned 9 year old?