Is this mean?

[Rainbowsoup]

Single parent work full-time with no help for childcare. Would it be mean to book annual leave whilst DD is at school so I can be on my own and do absolutely nothing but watch Netflix and eat junk food?!

Normally save all leave to use in school holidays but I am absolutely burnt out and dream of free time! Working from home now so can still work during holidays without having to book holiday clubs like before (but would mean a boring day for DD occupying herself whilst I’m in the study).

YABU- Save all holiday to spend quality time with DD.
YANBU- book some leave for myself!

Done it a couple of times recently and it was fab!

Well this is absolutely heaven to my ears

I’m going to do it.. I might even go mad and book her into afterschool club to get a full 7 hours peace!

@canigooutyet our head is quite accommodating if you have good reason though ‘I just need a day of Netflix and takeaway pizza’ wouldn’t suffice

How on earth could it be mean of you to take some time for yourself!

Don't feel guilty.

Would have thought this would have been 100% go for it

TheChosenTwo, On the form was something along the lines of personal day and spoken to head. Went in and opened with can I make a very cheeky request? Similar situation as op, sp with no support at the time.

YANBU whatsoever. You need a break, and you'll be more chilled out and your daughter will sense it and it'll have a positive effect on everyone :). Don't feel guilty having some 'you' time. It's important!

I think I feel bad because essentially me taking a day to be a slob is one day less I can spend with properly with DD. Our time together is already limited due to me working full time so she’s had to go to holidays clubs/breakfast/afterschool etc..

This summer I booked all 3 of mine into various childcare for a whole week. It honestly was the best week of my life 😂 I'm going to do it every year! I normally work term time so the my holidays are their holidays so never get time to myself!

My children are all grown up, I work part time and I'd still do it! I like having a day where I don't have housework, school run for the grandkids, work, running round after elderly relatives etc. My dh is lovely but sometimes I want a day just for me.

I think you’d be crazy not to do this.

Why would that be mean?

Oh, but you MUST!!

I was made redundant a few weeks ago, and I've got to say I'm really enjoying having the house to myself 5 days a week and stuffing my pregnant self with junk and watching This Morning in peace. Go for it!!

Sweet Jesus YANBU.
You are more than just Mum, you are you as well and you need and deserve time to relax and reset.

Remember what they tell you on a flight - put your own oxygen on before helping dependents.
You cant take care of your DC if you don't take care of yourself.
Enjoy your time.

They call it quality time, not quantity time.

If you feel looked after by booking a day or 2 off, you and your daughter will probably have a better experience of being together when you're not burnt out.

In our place we call it a 'mental health day'. Very very important to do