Hello
Not sure if I’m being paranoid but my boyfriend who I have been with for over three years was chilling with me on his phone yesterday and searched for something in safari. I noticed under the recent searches was his ex girlfriends Instagram (he doesn’t have insta so searched via safari). I immediately questioned this as their relationship (also of around 3 years) ended quite badly (long distance) and I was under the impression they hadn’t spoken since.
He got a bit defensive but said that she had been attempting to contact him every few months since the end of their relationship/start of ours (so three years ago) saying he is rude for not replying to her and what’s wrong with him. He never told me any of this when it happened and he said that was because he knew I would be angry. I also asked him if he blocked her once they broke up and he said yes but she tried emailing him on multiple emails including his work one.... that sounds a bit suspicious as surely if someone is pestering you with emails for years, you block them and that’s done. He said he never replied to any.
When questioning him about the Instagram, he said that in a recent message she told him she had coronavirus so he was just checking up on her profile to make sure she was ok. I also call BS to that...
Anyway he was really apologetic and said he would never intentionally do anything to damage our relationship and that he’s with me and he loves me and that is in the past now. He said he would ensure she is blocked from messaging him and that he won’t go on her Instagram again. He found out on her Instagram that she also now has a boyfriend and he’s happy for her.
I do believe him but I feel slightly upset that after all these years and what he said was a toxic relationship, he still feels the need to satisfy his curiosity. I was a bit off with him for most of today but he thinks he’s done nothing wrong. AIBU?