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I do not think I’m being unreasonable - four year old with temperature.

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CathyTre · 04/10/2020 15:20

My ex and I share three children, one an adult and the others seven and four. He has the Littles every other weekend Friday night until Sunday afternoon and a night in the week.

He and his wife are both school teachers.

It’s his weekend to have the kids.

He rang me this morning and said youngest was “grotty” yesterday and then early hours this morning had high temperature. He checked and it was 39. Gave calpol and after an hour was still raised but lower.

He said so “I’m bringing them back to you so you’ll have to arrange time off work and look after them”!

I said “No! You have to get him tested and all of you guys need to isolate until you get a negative test”.

I also told him that bringing them back to me wouldn’t solve his problem as he and his wife would still have to isolate as they’ve had the kids all weekend. He told me that I needed to have them so they could go into work anyway!! These people are teachers!

He has now agreed, having spoken to his head, that he will get a test and he and wife will take the time off, but this is because I said if I knew they weren’t isolating I would report them, and because his head teacher (whose view on the actual law obviously trumps mine) agreed with me.

Also, worried about my son as another of mine was seriously ill after a high temperature years ago and in PICU and he has a car and lives near a hospital and I don’t and am rural. So it makes sense anyway for him to look after them.

These people are in SMT in schools; although it’s now sorted I still feel pissed off (probably because am anxious as after having a very seriously ill child a few years ago, I’m a bit anxious about temperatures anyway).

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BeardieWeirdie · 04/10/2020 15:22

Your ex is an arse. Well done on being shot of him. Hope your little one feels better soon.

lockdownalli · 04/10/2020 15:23

YANBU

The children should stay there and they all need to isolate until you get test results. Flowers

dementedpixie · 04/10/2020 15:25

Do you not need to isolate as well until they get a test result as you would have been in contact in the last 48 hours?

HandfulofDust · 04/10/2020 15:25

Well done for standing your ground. In normal circumstances I would probably take the DC back if you could work from home or take time off more easily than teachers but in this situation your ex and his wife obviously she be isolating anyway so clearly they need to keep the kids until everyone's been tested.

CathyTre · 04/10/2020 15:26

Yes, I can work from home

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HandfulofDust · 04/10/2020 15:43

Even so they shouldn't be going in to school so you're doing the right thing. No idea why they were even considering it.

CathyTre · 04/10/2020 15:49

They thought if I had the kids, they could go to work.

These people are a deputy head and a head of key stage in two different schools. 🤦‍♀️

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YukoandHiro · 04/10/2020 15:55

Utter idiots. Glad you've put them straight. Problem is all over the country people are behaving like this - and that's why the infection rate is rising so rapidly. Look at that SNP woman who got on public transport for a long journey AFTER a positive test.
I despair of this country

CathyTre · 06/10/2020 11:45

Well update - his test was negative so that’s good but still glad we followed the rules in the end as I guess you never know.

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