To be incapable of being not even a 'half time' mum

[SlB09]

Hi, I am currently feeling really really guilty and like I'm an utterly terrible parent but I'd quite happily be an 'evenings and weekend' parent. I love my child wholeheartedly, they truly are my world but I honestly struggle with the oppressiveness of parenting and love going to work (I work part time). I used to think everyone was like this to a lesser or greater degree but now I'm not so sure. Friends are having second children and thinking about third and I can't help but feel inadequate. Does anyone else feel like this? Child is 3 x

my 3yo can be a real dickhead. there is no shame at all in having one ad going back to work.

I have never ever heard a man referred to as an evening/weekend or part-time parent. I wonder why?

I’m still a parent when at work, as is my husband. Changing nappies is part of being a parent. So is paying for nappies, which we do through the means of work. If I’m not financially responsible for my child as a parent - who is? It’s a core part of being a parent in my view.

Not everybody loves every stage of childhood and that’s fine. You’ll probably find there are other parts you enjoy more and will be surprised that other parents don’t agree.

You're mad to keep doing something you don't enjoy. Obviously for the most part children's needs come first but sometimes you can only deliver their needs by putting your own first. If it's within your means and If you think you'd be a happier and better mom working full time then go for it- no further justification required.

But you are capable because you are doing it. So even if you think you can't do it you really can.
If you want to put your child in childcare full time then you can if you can afford it but not something I would do.
I quite like the toddler years but finding the teens hard. Perhaps it will be the other way round for you.

@trixiebelden77 I have actually never thought of things this way but yes that's very true.

The post isn't about working PT/FT though, I just mentioned work as it's something that gives me that break and I enjoy.

@babigailgabble literally made me lol!!

I was a stay at home parent for years. I now work full time. Its been the absolute making of me. I love my job, I am happy at work even though its very stressful at times and feel like a proper person. Not easy to admit though and I feel sad sometimes for feeling that way