Looking for advice - trigger warning - suicide

[rooty123]

I'm on a private FB group related to a hobby. A member has posted a message this morning expressing a strong desire to kill themselves. They have received many replies offering sensible help but have not replied to any.

The issue is that I have just realised that this person is my friends DB. I've never met him.

I have no idea whether my friend knows about his current mental state. Obviously I hope so, but part of me is twisting up as if she doesn't know, and he doesn't get the help he needs, I feel I could have done something to stop this. I haven't seen her for a couple of years but also know she has had a tough ride recently too.

Aware that it feels like a massive breach of his privacy to tell her.

Would ibu to drop her a message. Please go easy on me. Like so many, I have lost someone to suicide.

Please tell her. Its am emergency cry for help.

I agree that you should tell her. Will he know you are also a member of the same group?
If you are friends on Facebook it would normally say.
He maybe in some way thinking you may see it?
You would not be wrong to pass this in though

I'm not friends with dB on FB but does show we have a mutual friend (his ds).

I'd tell her. He's posting about it openly on FB so fine to share with her IMO.

Surely tell her

Tell her, or the police!!

I don't think it's a breach of privacy if he's publicly posting on Facebook about it

Definitely tell her! It is a cry for help and just think how you’d feel if he did commit suicide and you hadn’t said anything.

How can it be a breach of privacy? He has posted publicly about suicide. Call your friend and the police so that they can do a welfare check

Tell her definitely, breaches of privacy go out the window when someone's life is at risk imo.

If it was your family member would you want to know? I know I would - if that was my brother I'd be grateful you told me so I could try and help him. Also, imagine how you would feel if he did take his own life and you hadn't said anything?

Tell her and I’d also contact the police and ask them to do a welfare check.

Please tell her. He is posting publicly about it. What type of hobby group is it? Roughly

Or police but I guess you don’t know where he lives?

I know it feels like a privacy invasion because it’s a private group. He reached out to that group. His sister might not know, he might have felt he can share his feelings to an online group that he has no day to day interaction with but that group is limited in how they can help him. Which might be what he wants but clearly isn’t in the right position to be making that choice. Your friend, his sister is in a better position to help him. Maybe choose to see it as fate being in the same group, so that you can help him. Even if you don’t look at it that way, it’s not a breach of privacy to get someone the help they need.

If the worst did happen, everyone who knows him has to carry on afterwards. At least you would know you did everything you could, and so would your friend.

If you know where he lives phone the police and ask for a welfare check then phone your friend and explain how you came to realise it is her DB and have asked for help.

I would be very grateful if I didn't know my DB was feeling like that and someone, anyone, was concerned enough to contact me/the police about it.

I hope he is and will be okay.