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AIBU to cancel interview?

35 replies

Naticus · 02/10/2020 10:22

I have an interview on Monday, however I accepted a job offer (verbal) on Tuesday afternoon?

I was hoping to receive something official through the post before cancelling, but haven't had anything yet (post already been today).

Should I cancel now, even though I've not had a written offer or wait until Monday's post has been and possibly have to cancel last minute?
Or is a verbal offer just as good?

OP posts:
Naticus · 02/10/2020 12:57

Thanks everyone I'm going to still go.
It can't hurt to have other options available, and like you say less pressure on this one so hopefully I won't feel as anxious about it (easier said than done!)

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Twigaletta · 02/10/2020 13:04

As someone who is still waiting for a contract for a job I interviewed for in 2019 I would attend the other interview and see how it goes. You are perfectly entitled to

a) withdraw your acceptance from job 1 if you end you preferring job 2. 'I'm sorry I will no longer be able to join your company. I have been offered a different job which is more suited to my skills/interests/whatever'

b) if you get offered job 2 but don't want it say 'Many thanks for your generous offer. Unfortunately I have been offered another role which suits my skills/interests/whatever better'

TeeBee · 02/10/2020 13:06

The fact that you get anxiety is exactly the reason you should still go. More experience/practise should give you more confidence. You might meet new and useful contacts. You have nothing to lose by going and everything to gain.

Florencex · 02/10/2020 13:16

A written offer can be pulled just as easily as a verbal offer. The piece of paper is evidence of the contract, but the verbal contract is no more or less binding.

I would go to the other interview if you think it would be a better job / higher pay. If you are happy with the job offer you have then don’t go.

PhilCornwall1 · 02/10/2020 13:19

@BlueBirdGreenFence

You probably won't get a contract until your first day so I would rely on the verbal offer. Congratulations.
What? So if you were already in a job and had a verbal offer, you'd resign from your current role? No way, I wouldn't resign until the new employer has my signed contract.
Irisheyesrsmiling · 02/10/2020 13:31

Please go to the interview, you have nothing to lose.

An ex-colleague had a similar situation and didn't go, and then the job she was to receive a contract for fell through.

If you get the job Monday, brilliant. If you don't, well at least by then the other one should be settled and official!

Good luck!

SRS29 · 02/10/2020 13:37

I get such bad anxiety around interviews which is why I'd rather cancel it Blush

Because of this I would definitely go as it will help with your anxiety in the long term regarding them PLUS no job guaranteed in these times so I would wait for the contract. Things change daily in the job market so I would cover yourself and if you are then lucky enough to be offered both then you can make the right decision for you - good luck!

Florencex · 02/10/2020 13:39

@PhilCornwall1

So if you were already in a job and had a verbal offer, you would resign from your current role? No way, I wouldn’t resign until the new employer has my signed contract.

The contract exists whether it is written down or not. Having things written down is evidence, but it provides no more job security than not having it written down.

The employer is required to provide a written statement of employment particulars within eight weeks of the employment commencing,

2bazookas · 02/10/2020 14:12

There's many a slip twixt cup and lip.

You're not committed to the first offer until you receive and confirm it in writing. I'd go for the interview and do NOT mention the orher offer. Maybe you'll end up with a choice :-)

Congrats on getting two job interviews in today's job market.

PhilCornwall1 · 02/10/2020 14:13

[quote Florencex]@PhilCornwall1

So if you were already in a job and had a verbal offer, you would resign from your current role? No way, I wouldn’t resign until the new employer has my signed contract.

The contract exists whether it is written down or not. Having things written down is evidence, but it provides no more job security than not having it written down.

The employer is required to provide a written statement of employment particulars within eight weeks of the employment commencing,[/quote]
Still no way I'd do it. Has worked for me for over 30 years.

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