To think I'm allowed to be tired?

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I went to bed at half 11 last night DD isn't a great sleeper.

I started my new job today I had to be there at 7 so I was up after five and it takes half an hour to get there. I finished at 11 and I got home before 12.

I was exhausted when I got home I put my pyjamas on and got on the sofa. OH is sneering at me asking me how on earth can I be tired I only went to work for 4 hours.

I said it's a lot learning a new job getting up early and commuting but he thinks it ridiculous.

AIBU? Or am am I entitled to have a nap on the sofa.

He’s being a knob. I can never understand people who behave as though they don’t like their partners and constantly want to find ways of making them feel just a bit worse. Who benefits from that behaviour?!

Yanbu to be tired but can you go to bed a bit earlier when your at work the next day?

The first month or so of a new job is always exhausting because you have so much to take in. Nothing wrong with chilling for a bit. He's being a knob.

Also if you're like me, going to bed early doesn't help because I lay there wide awake worrying and make myself more tired!

I wouldn’t have sneered nor cared if you had a nap on the sofa but I would have inwardly had a face at you being exhausted to the point you had to put on your pyjamas for a nap after such a short day at work and a decent(ish) enough amount of sleep the night before.

This is why it's great being divorced, when I get home and have an hours snoring practice in my onesie after work there is nobody to bitch and whine about it.
If I'm tired I have a nap.
How does it affect him anyhow.

Probably the change of routine - 5.5 hours sleep not a huge amount, and stress of new job - you'll probably adjust to it.
I did a physical volunteering job in lockdown - not just me, but even much younger colleagues said the first day completely wiped

them out - but week two was fine.

He doesn’t sound very nice

Never get defensive. I would say ‘I did a lot on a little sleep, I’m tired, good for you if you don’t get tired as easily’ then just ignore and go about your day.

It's not just those hours though is it op, it's all the hours on top looking after your dc and the house. Yanbu to feel tired and get comfortable whilst having a bit of a rest.

If he wasn’t there you could do the same thing without being judged for it.

Food for thought.

It doesn't matter what you've done the 24 hours before- if you're tired and want a nap then you should be able to out your pjs on without getting sneered at

He sounds like an arse, you sound a bit wet.

I'd be a bit 🙄 at that as well. I will occasionally have 10 min nap if I've been in an early. But it's very rare as we do 12.5 hour shifts. But I wouldn't put my pj's on or go to bed. We also start at 7

What had he been doing while you were at work?

I'd tell him to get fucked.

Was he bitching because he had to actually be a parent?

Yanbu OP, 5 hours of sleep is not enough and you started a new job.