AIBU to feel so anxious and hurt

[Aurora4]

A long term friend ( we are both 36) has suddenly stopped bothering eith me and I don't know why! I am always there for her and helpful when she needs me, supported her literally day and night for many years after a messy divorce. She was a god send through lockdown keeping me sane by chatting on the phone everyday and then it suddenly stopped. I've no idea why, I've asked her if I've upset her or anything she said no. Shes out with other friends and family alot and working so I totally get how busy she is but I can't help that I feel gutted that we don't talk now unless I call or text her, she's always already busy when I ask to meet. I know its pretty stupid of me to worry about meeting up during this pandemic but I just feel totally forgotten. I did speak to her about it and she apologised and said its not on purpose she's just busy. She also said that she feels so much stronger at the moment and doesn't feel like she needs to emotionally rely on people anymore which I'm so proud of her for but when I had surgery she didn't even ask if I was ok and she never actually asks about me. AIBU for feeling like im just not important to her now or am I reading to much into it and overthinking it cus I suffer from anxiety generally.

I've had it happen to me once. It's hurtful and horrible but you never know if she may have something going on behind the scenes like a bereavement, illness in the family, relationship issues. It's most probably nothing you have done or said! I would back off from contacting her ,let her come to you. If she doesn't, you know you tried.

Sometimes people can be odd and behave strangely for no apparent reason and be unpredictable. Put your efforts into other friendships and focus on those who make th effort with you

It sounds like you fulfilled a need and the need is no longer there. Possibly her other friends have much more in common with her - they too may be takers rather than givers, so while she clicks with them in other ways they may not have been supportive to her when she needed it. It’s hard, but there are plenty of people out there who will use you for emotional support and disappear when you need the same. It’s a huge character flaw on her part and by using you the way she has shes lost support should she need it again. Take it as a lesson and give her nothing else.

Sometimes people you've supported thru a crisis decide it's too much of a reminder to see you after they've come out the other side. It's like they regret the intimacy & vulnerability they showed. Leave her to it.

I had a similar experience, exactly like @CSIblonde described...I clearly reminded her of a unhappy time in her life, so as soon as she no longer needed me for support I was ditched.