Over child and cartoons?

[Cheesewine]

I need to know if I'm being unreasonable. Since I was pregnant I said to my OH I did not want our DD watching cbeebies etc. It's not so much the cartoons it's the adverts between them that just try to get your kid to want everything. DSD is obsessed with YouTube opening toys and wants everything. If cbbs is on TV every advert she turns round and says I want that I want that. I know it's just normal but I hate how youtubers and tv dictate what your kids want to buy.
I don't mind if she watches films and cartoons just not the ones with the constant advertising of toys. I absolutely hate the youtube videos that DSD watches and I think they brain wash kids. So I went for a shower the other day, a very rare one and came out and DP had DD Infront of the TV with cbbees. He just laughed and said it would need to be good cop bad cop. Am I being unreasonable? Should I just give in and let her watch it? I just want her to decide what she likes and not be told what to like by YouTubers and adverts. Girls must like pink and princesses etc. Should I just give up now ?

CBeebies is ace. Got me through 5 children and has a special place in my heart.

I suggest you actually do your research and discover what it actually is (NO adverts) then make up your mind.

My DD watches TV with ads and those YouTube videos. If she asks me to buy her stuff I say no. It isn't hard.

@smellbalina no not letting her watch toy openings I can't stand that just baby sensory on YouTube. Her sister watches that on YouTube.
Thanks for all the replies about cbbs I didn't know that they didn't have adverts I will have to say to Oh to put that on instead of what he has been putting on.

Part of life is learning we can't always have what we want. Learning this young is better.

For example I walk round the shops and see lots of things I might like, but I can't get them.

Your DD can say 'I want this' as much as she wants, but that doesn't mean she has to get those things. It's up to you and your husband to teach her that.

I'm always amazed by people who put those you tube videos on for their children. What's the point? They are marketing videos. There's nothing remotely educational or creative or imaginative.

Nothing but cbeebies in our house. It has plenty of choice. Generally it's a positive that we thus avoid the marketing money machines that are paw patrol and peppa pig, and instead get the fab Octonauts and Go Jetters. .

@queenarseclanngers thanks. I honestly thought that's what had been on with adverts. I will take your advice and check it out. Happy to hear no adverts. God knows what's been on .

I sort of understand what you mean it sometimes feel channels are an onslaught of adverts and can be full on.but there is a balance
You and DP are the parents. You both need to teach your dd she cant have everything she sees on tv.
It will be the same going into shops
It is where boundaries are set and kept in place.

Mine all watch tv with adverts (although I do restrict you tube but they are older) but they know as much as stuff looks "cool, epic and I want" that that doesnt mean they will get

My kid watches more CBeebies than he does anything else. It's colourful and shiny and Singy and fun.

David Attenborough for a baby 😂😂

Very happy to hear cbbs has no adverts. Thanks everyone.

A lot of the CBeebies programmes are pretty educational. They’re really fine.

If it is adverts cbeebies doesnt (and bbc iplayer can help you pick) or netflix has a lot of cartoons without adverts

I think it’s important parents don’t duck the ‘you cannot have it just because you want it’ discussion with children. The younger they understand this, the better.
It’s like trying to teach about healthy relationships by hiding them from the opposite sex throughout their teens. It’s better to address it than abdicate saying no.

I think it’s important parents don’t duck the ‘you cannot have it just because you want it' discussion with children

You can have that discussion in the supermarket, at friends houses, any time, without sitting them in front of marketing videos. Advertising is terrifically clever, using subliminal messaging and psychological techniques. It takes us 'til adulthood to comprehend it, and even then many of us still cant resist it.

The odds are completely stacked against children understanding or resisting it. Its one thing there being an advert within or between programmes, but those toy unboxing videos, I just do not understand why anyone lets young children watch those.

I will say it’s a little OTT only because the minute you take them to a supermarket and they see paw patrol on a yogurt they are being targeted, unavoidable.
I actually find the crappy cartoons themselves worse that the adverts.

I did the same thing for the same reasons @Cheesewine.
I’m also very happy I did but you won’t find many people on MN agreeing to that.

The issue for you is how to handle the situation with your DH (and find a compromise)

My littlest has never seen an advert. He actually freaked out when one came on in our holiday chalet.
Our oldest knows they are there to advertise stuff to you, but again, in the past two and a half years, he Hasn’t seen one.
We don’t have live TV, we only have Netflix and Disney+. (Saves us About £300 a year with a basic sky package and a TV licence)
Why are you even bothering with live TV for kids anyway?

@OnlyFoolsnMothers

I will say it’s a little OTT only because the minute you take them to a supermarket and they see paw patrol on a yogurt they are being targeted, unavoidable. I actually find the crappy cartoons themselves worse that the adverts.

Actually, my dcs never had cbbies etc.... That means they never saw paw patrol, Thomas the tank engine on a yogurt as particularly attractive. They never asked for anything just because of a character on the packaging.

My children are too old for CBeebies now but check out octonauts, the amount they learnt about sea creatures was unbelievable and it has made one of mine want to be a marine biologist!

So it’s not CBeebies

So are you ok with CBeebies?

When DD was very young, I avoided all channels with adverts and she watched
(too much)cbeebies. When she got a little older, 5/6ish, she saw other stuff with adverts and we used to talk about them. She soon realised that the toys etc aren't always quite like that in real life. Even she hated the Leli Kelly ads!

CBeebies is great, it’s got me through single parenthood

So your SD watches it and gets what she wants this isn’t another, my child will not be like my stepchild thread is it?

Use the adverts as an opportunity to talk with your child about materialism, consumerism and the misleading nature of advertising.

My Dad would regularly scoff at whatever plastic tat I was enamoured with on TV and point out how Evil Knievel's motorbike was unlikely to actually fly as far as the one on the ad appeared to, or the He-Man doll would never be able to stand unassisted and deliver killer punches to Skeletor, or that Barbie was vain and superficial.

Occasionally some of these toys were purchased as Christmas/birthday presents (not all, but some) and most of the time Dad's warnings proved correct.

It was very educational.

To be fair, both my DDs love David Attenborough (11 and 1), when we were having a bad day that was sometimes our homeschooling and they both watched with a lot more interest than they do cartoons. But yeah, there is absolutely nothing wrong with Cbeebies, lots of it is fab.

Meuniere each to their own, I have very fond memories of cbeebies growing up, playdays, raggy dolls etc. My niece now watches cbbc and loves the dumping ground and some dance show.
Tbh I understand terrestrial tv way more than the crap on YouTube which is truly horrendous in my opinion.
Cbeebies also got me through some horrendous toddler days when I had the D&V bug and could do sod all