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AIBU?

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FjordFiestas · 30/09/2020 16:56

I work full time, currently WFH. DH is a key worker, part-time (Weds-Fri). Today, I have meetings up until 7pm. We're in the process of moving house so the house is beyond an absolute tip - mess absolutely everywhere. White goods, hoover etc all over at the new house but working from the old house as it has internet - beds are here, no actual furniture in the new house.
Just found out DH has invited FIL to stay tonight. FIL is lovely but old, pretty deaf and a bit of a dinosaur. He thinks I'm a SAHM and expects me to be thin and keep the house clean. I definitely caused disappointment when I didn't give up my successful career when having children. Normally, the house is clean but it's not clean now and I'm certainly not thin!
To make it worse, my purse is at the new house so I couldn't buy anything in for dinner when I found out FIL was coming. Even if I had, we have no oven here to cook it because it's at the new house. So, we'll have to order a takeaway (which is great solution to FIL thinking I'm fat and lazy!!). DH has just finished work and gone to the new house to meet FIL (because for some reason he told FIL to go there even though neither of us are there and left a key under the mat for him - why?!?). And then he's bringing FIL to the house I'm in (the old house), where there's no food (or way to cook it), where I'm still fat and still working, and everything's a mess (that I can't clean because I have no dishwasher, no washing machine, no hoover, not even a broom or dustpan and brush).
AIBU to just run away?
(And, for the record, I really do care about FIL thinking I'm fat and lazy and the house is a mess even if it is out dated and sexist).

OP posts:
FooFighter99 · 30/09/2020 16:59

Lock the front door and tell them both to piss off!

Anordinarymum · 30/09/2020 17:02

Calm down. Get a takeaway and stuff the FIL Literally :)

FjordFiestas · 30/09/2020 17:02

@FooFighter99

Lock the front door and tell them both to piss off!
It's tempting but it wouldn't do much to convince FIL that I'm a good "SAHM".
OP posts:
Anordinarymum · 30/09/2020 17:02

@FooFighter99

Lock the front door and tell them both to piss off!
LOL That was funny :)
ABCDay · 30/09/2020 17:10

It's okay, don't worry, your DH will be doing everything.

Won't he??

FjordFiestas · 30/09/2020 17:17

@ABCDay

It's okay, don't worry, your DH will be doing everything.

Won't he??

What could he do? He's getting here the same time as FIL. If he cooks or cleans (if he even could without food or an oven or cleaning goods) then I look lazy.
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Throckmorton · 30/09/2020 17:18

In that you can't change FIL, you can only change yourself - WHY do you care if he thinks you are fat and lazy, and what would you say to a friend who was worried her FIL thought she was fat and lazy?

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