when it comes to Christmas, the more money that you spend on your dc doesn’t equate to more love. Now, before I’m flamed let me explain. This situation isn’t something new, it’s something I’ve put up with for a few years now but this year, after the year we’ve had, my patience is wearing thin.
I’ve been friends with this person since we were in college so a good 20 years now. She has 2 dc the same as me. As a person she is lovely (usually) but omg she is an obsessive type A personality kind, which to be fair i had accepted as that’s just how she is, but over the years she’s got worse. When it comes to her dc they have to have the best of the best. Now I know we all like spoiling our dc every now and again but my friend takes this to another level, and Christmas has become horrendous with her.
She is financially comfortable but still insists on buying presents from May/June. That’s fine as it’s her choice, but what drives me crazy is that for the next 6/7 months I’m then told repeatedly not only what she has bought them, but also how much she has spent. Now before anyone thinks I’m jealous, I’m really not. My dc get a decent amount at Christmas, stuff I know they’ll appreciate, and I could chose to spend more but I don’t want to end of story.
I wish it was just a case of her telling me what she boys and spends, as that’s annoying enough as it is, but no. When it comes to money in general she’s obsessed and she will also repeatedly tell me what she has spent on her dc clothes, what she spends on days outs, holidays etc. When it comes to birthdays and Christmas she does go ott, and she’s one of those people who post pictures to Facebook of the dc’s massive piles of gifts, minus the actual dc though which i did a bit odd but again that’s her choice to do that. I am however getting to go the end of my tether with her attitude towards other parents who chose to spend less on their dc as she has plenty to say about that. She definitely does think the more you spend on your dc the better a parent you are and i just think that’s ridiculous. She also quizzes me on what I by my dc, and in the past I’ve said the odd thing here and there but I refuse to rhyme off a list of what I‘ve bought or tell her how much I’ve spent. Would I be unreasonable to tell her to pack it in as it’s got to the point now where she’s a nightmare. What’s worse is I think she knows that she’s doing my head in, as trust me, if my mouth doesn’t say it my face does. I don’t usually do subtle neither does my face. So I’m wondering if she’s bragging on purpose in attempt to rile me.