Report a bedhopper in high risk area?

[BunnyVodka]

NC because 'friend' is an unpreducatable cannon ball.

This friend is more of an aquaintance & I haven't seen her for years. She lives in one of the safest covid areas of the UK & is a nurse (adult surgical). I live in a high risk area & we're under local lockdown rules. However, she's coming here visiting (originally from around here) and wanted to stay at my house which I share with my 5 yo disabled DD. I've told her no & she's gone absoluetly crazy with me. You'd think I'd murdered her first born the way she reacted.

To the present. I've had a message from another friend to say that visiting friend is intending reporting me to the police for breeching the rules by having my boyfiend around. Note that my BF & I are a support bubble (2 lone adult households) & he also provides a lot of childcare for my DD as he works shifts with a long rest break between. I KNOW that we're within the rules but it's grated me so much that this person is in my area, currently bedhopping and going from home to home visiting but she's had the cheek to say she's going to try to cause trouble for me because I wouldn't let her stay over here for 2 nights. Life is hard enough at the moment! Aparently there's also a social media smear campaign going on now too because I'm 'disloyal' & 'selfish'. I blocked her as soon as she went batshit at me so don't know details and I don't want to know. Other friends have given in and let her stay over because , to be frank, she's so manipulative & volatile it's just easier to let her have her own way.

I said right at the very begining of all of this that I wouldn't ever be reporting anyone as I don't believe in policing the behaviour of others but I'm sorely tempted. I could say it's out of concern for the patients on her ward because she'll be going back to her 'safe' area next week and straight back to work the next day. In truth I'm just really angry that she'd consider causing trouble for me and my family when she's being an outright fucker! She continually gets away with shitty behaviour as she cries 'MH' afterwards & guilts whomever she's upset into forgiving her before she promptly moves onto the next target.

Would you report her?

I think you want to report her as revenge, and I don’t think that’s an appropriate reason. If people found out you’d done it, it seems likely they would (imo quite appropriately) judge and mistrust you.

You've behaved extremely sensibly so far. Continue to hold your head high. If she does report you (due to sour grapes) then you can deal with it then. She sounds like an idiot.

I think she sounds really immature! And possibly you are a little immature as well because you seem to just want revenge.

Why's she sofa surfing? Is it possible she has become homeless?

I don't think I'd report her but I'd certainly tell her, in public/SM if possible, that she is a selfish, lying, blackmailing cow and can just fuck off!

And let her bleat to all and sundry.. they probably are as sick of her pulling such stunts as you are!

No. I'd move house and get better friends.

If she wants to report you and you're not doing anything illegal, let her make a fool of herself.

I wouldn't report her - I'd try to forget she exists. Also - who is this friend pouring poison in your ear about what this woman's been saying/doing? Are you sure she is really a friend?

Are you both 12?

I think yabu because it's for revenge. Also I couldn't see myself reporting anyone personally it creates bad and poisonous community vibes.

She sounds like a toxic pita so the best revenge would be to put a long term barge pole between you. Polite, gray rock, and always have a pan over boiling on the hob for her

I saw this earlier this week. The government knows someone will pull this sort of shit, so has made provision for it... www.independent.co.uk/news/uk/politics/coronavirus-false-reporting-contact-fine-penalty-b671230.html

Yes I'd report her. She visiting households in a high risk area and potentiallly taking it back to a low risk area - which is exactly what the rules are truing to prevent.

Report her to the NMC

I'd just contact the friends you know she hopes to stay with, tell them what she has threatened you with, and warn them they can expect the same if they refuse to let her stay.