Feel old and unfulfilled

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Apologies, slightly clickbait title.

Im 28 and have in recent days started to feel like Im losing my youth and that Im nowhere near where I want to be...

On paper I earn decent money (50k, set to go up) and have good friends, social life etc, good holidays. Career is good but could be better, and Im single.

A lot of my friends are slightly younger and still living the footloose fancy free lifestyle - I am too, to an extent, but was plagued with bad anxiety and low self confidence throughout my twenties and finally starting to feel better now.

I feel like the years for fun have gone and that I will never meet anyone who I love to settle down with

Due to anxiety above, I still feel like I have a lot to get out my system in terms of having fun/travel (even though I have done a lot of this stuff - I just want in the right mental state to really benefit from it) but then equally I want to meet someone, settle down etc... Im just not sure how or when any of this will happen. Really freaking out.

Can anyone relate or advise please?

I can relate to the title of your thread and was about to sign up to your club, but the content of your post not so much.

You have plenty of time to meet someone, especially as you're feeling better about yourself. In terms of making a success of life, you seem to be doing very well - probably better than most. But I appreciate that it hasn't felt like that, but if you managed good job, good friends and social life while feeling a bit low, just think what you'll be able to do achieve as your confidence rises.

I wonder if you might benefit from something like a life coach. Having someone specific to talk to might help with the freaking out.

@Pippistrelle just wanted to say thank you for your very kind words. Apologies, I am being a bit woe is me - you actually made me tear up a bit, really nice response.

Life coach sounds good, I am actually receiving therapy right now and will broach this topic with my therapist too.

What do you do that earns 50k at 28? I wonder if there is a lot of responsibility in that job that doesn’t necessarily satisfy other parts of you that need to grow?

One thing I did that helped when I felt I needed to build my confidence was to make a list of the areas (at work and outside) of the small things that flustered/threw me (stuff like computers and having to use new systems). I really think a huge part of confidence lies in our ability to master the simple things rather than the big things and if anxious, we can’t always see that.

Now I need to find the genuine old and unfulfilled thread...

28 old ???

People will scoff here when you say you feel old at 28 but I know what you mean. It's all about self worth and confidence. I too wonder that with a high salary maybe you are in a job that doesn't leave much time for yourself? Hobbies, exercise, healthy eating are your friend.