Dd has mentionitis...should I say something

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So dd, 16, started a new weekend job (at a local bar/restaurant. She works the Sunday lunch shift for now. She had a great time and really enjoyed it...however she has had mentionitis about one of the guys working behind the bar...he's just 19 and in his final year at school (so he only does a few hours on Sunday to help over lunch time)

Now I don't mind, she clearly likes the guy...but do I say something to her or do I leave it go? She mentions him at least hourly at this point...🤣🤣

I don't think there's a problem with a simple, light question, but if nothing is forthcoming I'd back off.

Personally I don't understand why it has to be embarrassing, but we are quite a talkative family about most things.

Tbh if she has got mentionitis, it maybe helpful to point it out very gently in case it is happening with colleagues too!

But obviously no teasing.

Oh bless her, let her talk about him. I remember being that age and wanting to talk about boys l liked, you don’t always want to talk to friends about them!

@PrivateD00r - mentionitis is a condition whereby you mention someone/something a lot!

Agree @MadisonMontgomery, talking to friends can be awful due to the risk of gossip getting back to the subject!

Better she talks to you about him and you know all about it than she keeps thing secret or feels like she can't talk to you.
It will blow over soon enough.
I remember being 16 and talking constantly about boys to my friends and to my Mam. I must have been a right boring pain in the arse.

My dd is like this... I just smile and nod, ask sensible questions, and think 'at least shes talking to me' but it does make me smile inwardly, but it's also alarming that she's now old enough to even think like this

Oh thanks for the explanation - I thought it meant someone who kept telling you the same thing over & over again using the phrase "did I mention....."
(my DH does this because he can't remember that he's told me already)

I agree not to say anything, it can get annoying though haha.

Least said, soonest mended. Just lend support if it's needed.

Mentionitis- is there a treatment for it?!!!

I think given he is 19, little to worry about.

Where are you that 19-year-olds are still in school?

Awh it is a nice feeling for her.
Say nothing just smile and nod.

@NancyPickford Ireland...not uncommon at all!
I actually had a guy in my class who was repeating his final year and he turned 20 in the February that year 🤣

My instinct was to say you absolutely mustn't say anything, OP - but then I thought about one of my DC, who would be desperate for me to tease her about it. Only you know your DD well enough to know which response would be better!

Aw, loves young dream.... Keep your ear out and enjoy being included for now.

Dd used to just come straight out and tell me, and I'd demand to see a photo of them on her phone!

@NancyPickford
I worked in a country where pupils would repeat school years if they didn't pass the year, and some people would restart the equivalent of A Levels to change specialism. I was 20 when I arrived as a university student on placement and some of my students were 25 and still finishing school!

Urgh this is the sort of think my mother use to do, even when it wasn’t true, just to get a reaction.
I never tell her anything now so she just makes stuff up to embarrass me.
Don’t be like her.
It’s lovely that she tells you stuff, don’t jeopardise that.

@fink That setup all sounds very familiar

Leave her to enjoy her crush. Dont say anything!

Being young and having a mega crush is such a special time. Don’t spoil it for her by making her self conscious about it.

I would just say 'oh he sounds nice' in a fairly neutral way, indicating you'd heard it but weren't probing. Wait and see, it might just be her crush, it might be reciprocated, either way it's lovely.