To be wishing I was more interested in sex?

[MoiraRoseIsMyQueen]

I’m mid-30’s, one DS who’s 5. My sex drive has been dwindling over the years, to the point where I really can’t be bothered with sex. Honestly, it’s the last thing I want to do when I get into bed - I just want to sleep! When we do have sex (about twice a month I would say) it’s great, so that’s not the issue, I just so rarely feel like it. AIBU to expect my libido to be higher than this at my age?! Is this normal - and if not, is there anything I can do about it?!

Are you on the pill or any other hormonal contraceptive op?
The pill absolutely killed my sex drive. I didn’t realise how much it was affecting me until I came off it.

@hippohector not any more, I was for many years and I was exactly the same - when I came off it I couldn’t believe how different I felt! I do wonder if it’s something hormonal going on that’s making me feel like this - my periods have also been off for a while.

It could be hormonal I guess if your periods have been off for awhile.
But also it could just be you are tired/preoccupied/ stressed about the day to day demands of life with a child!
To be honest, I don’t think a lot of people fancy sex at the end of a long tiring day with the knowledge that the alarm will be going off again in the morning.
I know it’s hard with kids but can you try to make some time especially for just you and your DH? Get a babysitter and schedule some alone time together in the diary. It might feel a bit clinical and planned but maybe it would help if you set some time aside to relax and just focus on the two of you. Easier said than done though sometimes I know.

Ever since kids I am so exhausted and preoccupied I have gone off it too. I do enjoy it when I have it also. But sleep/ relaxing is my priority because I don't get much of it.

I assume it will come back when they kids get a bit older. Mine are 1 and 4