AIBU - To be upset that my next door neighbour is moving

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We've recently discovered our neighbour is moving, which has really upset me.
We have Children almost the same age, there's a few months between them and we've become really good friends and the two children get on really well and when we hear their child shouting or laughing through the wall, my little boy goes 'I can hear my best friend....' so it's been lovely to have someone to go through it all with and I'm gutted they are going. She said they won't move far, they just want to be closer to his parents.

I think part of me is also worried because if I can hear them sometimes, I'm worried that if someone really awful moves in we will hear them a lot.

I don't know if I've got a right to be upset or if it's just be being a bit silly!

Just looking for a bit of a hand hold or if anyone has been in the same position.

I completely understand how you feel. Good neighbours are worth their weight in gold. I have lived next door (detached house) to my neighbours for over 15 years. We have a perfect neighbourly relationship. We are always happy to help each other, have brief, friendly chats, but for the most part leave each other alone. We are all quiet and keep our properties tidy and pleasant. It's perfect. Two years ago they said they were thinking about moving and I was gutted. I immediately had horrible thoughts of new, nightmarish neighbours due to past experience. Thankfully, they decided not to move and plan on staying for many years to come.

YANBU

YANBU - Arguably neighbours have more of an impact on our lives than many family members. Of course you will be upset. You may not get someone as lovely - but you never know. And you may get a quiet professional, a family with older teens who can babysit, a lovely young couple or just someone nice.

And no-one stays forever, You might want more space yourself before too long, or get a job in another city - who knows.

So YANBU to be sad - but it is not necessarily going to be bad. And it might be good.

My next door neighbours are fab. They have become really good friends over the years and I would miss them if they moved away.
We have new neighbours on the other side and they seem lovely too.
Feel very fortunate!