Going to a stranger's house

[BusyBB]

Now maybe I watch too much crime drama...

My friend (29) has recently moved into a new area, 90miles away in a shared house. Today she was messaging me that she was flirting with the guy decorating the house and he had invited her to his house for dinner, should she go?

I told her I wouldn't go to a strangers house, maybe go for coffee instead, later she said she is still going so I said make sure she tells her house mates, asked if she has his address and asked if she wants me to call her later incase she needs to invent an emergency. Then she tells me no because her phone is low battery. Didn't say about telling housemates or if she knows his address.

Argh!! It's probably all fine and she is a grown woman but what if he's a serial killer!?! I messaged her (unread).

Please reassure me this is completely normal for single people these days, and my friend should be safe. Haha.

I think it is normal these days isn’t it? Isn’t that what people do when they meet on tinder etc? (I’m assuming, I suppose - been with same person since 16, never done dating & no internet when I was young let alone tinder!!)

I’d say haha but please feel free to advance search what happened to me on date 2 when I chose to go to his flat and stop laughing.

She’s taking a massive risk. Vast majority of the time I’m sure it’s fine, I suppose it can happen when you “know” them, but it’s really really not worth it and to not tell her friends where she is at least she’s a massive fool.

Not that me sending a friend his address and having a photo of his driving license made a damn bit of difference to my experience because once they have you alone they don’t give a fuck.

@Dizzywizz I'm the same, been with husband since 18!

I was with my ex DH from 18 for 21 years! Naive as all hell back on the dating, learnt fast!

@DrizzleandDamp sorry something happened to you. I'm worried as I have no way to advance search if i decided to. Dont even know her new address.. argh!

Not a cat in hells chance.

“ once they have you alone they don’t give a fuck.”
This.

I did all kinds of stupid things when I was young, foolish and wanting a boyfriend tbh. You can only advise her. Is she on snapchat? You can see people’s locations on there I think.

@icelollycraving no snapchat :(

But he would be stupid to do something right? As he was at the house decorating so must not be a stranger to the landlord. If she goes missing they could find him!

She is probably just having a fun night. Maybe I will tell this story at their wedding!?

None of us know if he’s ok but chances are that he is on a perfectly nice date with your friend. Is she at all vulnerable?

She is taking an unnecessary risk. I would always meet in a public place at least for the first time

@icelollycraving no shes not vulnerable, she doesnt even drink so it's not like she will be making herself vulnerable either
:) thanks!

@Twigletfairy I agree!

I’d just listen to the date info tomorrow and perhaps tell her it could have gone a bit differently if he wasn’t as nice.
Fingers crossed she’s having a great date. Don’t give her too hard a time or she won’t tell you anything in future. Try to relax, you’re her friend not her mum (meant nicely I promise!)

@icelollycraving yeah, I wont give her a hard time. Just myself a hard time!

@icelollycraving and thanks!

Unfortunately there’s always a bit of risk, regardless of how well you know them or how carefully you’ve vetted. She will more than likely be fine.

But going on a low battery

@12309845653ghydrvj I know right! (low battery)

I wouldn’t do it, I’d actively discourage any of my children doing it but I do know people that do 🤷‍♀️

Friend is home and has had a great night!

Thanks for the update, I was just wondering!

I hope she doesn't do it again

Thanks for the update. Glad she was fine & happy.

Chances are she'll be fine, as most men aren't rapists/murderers. Of course there is always a risk, but then even if you meet up for a coffee there's nothing to stop someone slipping Rohypnol into it.