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AIBU?

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To delete all of ex's friends and family from my social media?

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JaffaCake70 · 29/09/2020 20:44

Just that really.

Following on from a recent thread about the end of my relationship, I'm pondering whether or not I should delete all of his family and friends from my social media.

We were together for two and a half years. In that time I accepted friend requests from quite a large number of his friends and family. I was never massively close to any of them, as it was a long distance relationship and we only saw each other fortnightly at weekends.

When we broke up, a month ago, he immediately deleted my friends from his FB, stating that they were my friends, not his. I'm now thinking that perhaps I should delete all of his friends and family too? I don't really have a reason to keep them do I? I'm not comfortable knowing that they could potentially report back to him about things they see on my FB etc.

I'll never see any of these people again as our relationship was long distance and he lived in a tiny village that I will never visit again.. There were a couple of women that I got quite friendly with and got along well with, but neither of them have messaged or been in touch since we broke up, so they're not really friends are they?

What would you do?

YABU = I'm unreasonable to delete them all.

YANBU = I'm not unreasonable to delete them all.

OP posts:
BurningQuestion1 · 29/09/2020 20:45

I don't think it's unreasonable to delete people if you don't actually keep in touch. However for now I would probably just make it so they can't see your feed. Then just quietly delete after a few months!

Newkitchen123 · 29/09/2020 20:45

Delete
You don't appear to have a relationship with them so it's a non issue

Alexandernevermind · 29/09/2020 20:54

I'm a big fan of regularly checking through my friends list to check that the people on there are the people who I want to see my holiday photos and Fair Play for Women post shares. @BurningQuestion1's strategy is a good one.

AdoraBell · 29/09/2020 20:57

Delete.

JaffaCake70 · 29/09/2020 21:43

Deleted! Done!!

OP posts:
katy1213 · 29/09/2020 21:47

Why are you worrying about people you'll never see again? Complete non-issue. Delete.

AnneLovesGilbert · 29/09/2020 21:49

Good job. How do you feel?

This has given me a slight chuckle, not in a mean way. My ex had been friends with a couple for many years and I got to know them well too but often found them quite irritating. When we divorced I remember thinking it was my chance to ditch them and leave them to him in the split and I promptly axed them from fb only to find out later he’d done the same thing Grin

crankysaurus · 29/09/2020 21:50

That was a remarkably quick and easy AIBU!

Tunnocks34 · 29/09/2020 21:50

I only ever keep immediate family and friends on fb tbh. I remember when I broke up with my ex (10 years ago almost) his whole family and friendship circle deleted me without 3 days too. Saved me a job!

Arofan · 29/09/2020 22:01

@AnneLovesGilbert

Good job. How do you feel?

This has given me a slight chuckle, not in a mean way. My ex had been friends with a couple for many years and I got to know them well too but often found them quite irritating. When we divorced I remember thinking it was my chance to ditch them and leave them to him in the split and I promptly axed them from fb only to find out later he’d done the same thing Grin

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