DP has left me. His decision. Not mine. Taking with him initially only a box of condoms by the way. And with no prior warning, discussion, attempt to resolve the difficulties he perceived we were having. Dcs are 5 and 3.
We are trying to work out his contact with dcs amicably and I am saying that since he has left me with all the responsibility of raising the kids and holding down a job (5 days a week during school hours) that he should see the kids when it is best for them and me. This is Fridays after school (when no homework, uniform, lunchboxes, PE kit to worry about and it doesn't matter too much if they end up having a slightly later night) and Saturdays so I can get to shops, PO, banks, estate agents (he's left me with responsibilty for selling the house and finding another too), opticians etc and also have a bit of a break so that I too can enjoy some quality time with the kids on Sunday. I have said that as the kids adjust we can look towards him keeping them on Friday nights sometimes.
ex DP says he can't do Fridays because of some unspecified meeting after work (which turns out to be only once a month and finishes before 5) which may well turn out to be in the fullness of the time the pub (my discovery that the meeting which turned out to be not a meeting and the pub instead and was his reason for not picking up the kids from school which meant I had to wait behind at work for 2 hours to do this since I actually finished working at 1 was part of what provoked his decision to leave me).
He says he can't do Saturdays because he has just started playing football (though I have been encouraging him to do this all throughout our relationship and he didn't want to).
He also says it is me that is preventing him seeing his kids!! And me who needs to compromise!!
Opinions please