To ask if you have a good relationship with your siblings

[Coldnights]

How does it work with family stuff if you don’t?

1 brother, didn’t get on at all when we were younger (couldn’t be in a room for 5 minutes without arguing) it’s got better as we’ve got older, we tolerate each other at family dinners but don’t have any relationship outside of that.
I do wonder what will happen when my parents are no longer alive (hopefully a long way off!) I doubt if we will see each other at all

I have a neutral relationship with my sisters. We're all very different, and don't live close to each other. If we weren't sisters we wouldn't be friends, but equally when i see them at Christmas (which is pretty much the only time i see them besides family weddings etc) we dont fight/argue/dislike each other.
We don't really speak apart from when we see each other at Christmas, but its not in an angry "i'm never speaking to you again!" kind of way, we just have nothing to say to each other.

No I dont
2 sisters , they are very close to one another but not with me
I had a mental breakdown and neither of them stopped up to offer support . I remember stuff like that and since then cut them off
I dont do family stuff I have a strained relationship with my mother
I only do family stuff with my husband and 3 children

I get on very well with my older brother, both of our kids are pretty much the same age, so we see them alot!

Younger brother i have always struggled with, recently he got diagnosed with autism, but the reason i dont get on with him, is because he is a drug addict, i see everyday he is slowly killing my parents, through stress and worry, ive told them they need to remove him from the house, both my parents are almost 60, good jobs, no mortgage and should be enjoying there lives, but no, all there money is going to my brother, paying loans off, paying drug dealers because he owes them money and usually pull a knife on him, i know of 2 lads in my area that have been murdered because they owe money, and one day my mum and dad are gonna get a knock at the door by the police telling them there son has been murdered, i hate him, we have all tried to help him, but geys chucked back in our faces, ive washed my hands of him

Not as good as I'd like

I had all kinds of trouble in my relationship with DSis, but once I moved to the UK (she was here already) we ended up finding we had a lot in common and for the past 15 years or so we have got on very well indeed. She likes my kids too. It's lovely after all the difficult years when we were teens and in our twenties.

I have 1 sister. As kids we love/hated each other in fairly even amounts.

DF did a bloody good job isolating me and feeding her a lot of BS. I couldn't explain to her what he was doing, parents lived with her so had time to persuade her of their views.

After 30+ years things changed and she ended up on my doorstep in tears (we live hundreds of miles apart). After many more tears and anger we now have a better relationship. We still live hundreds of miles apart and only have sporadic communication. But it is all on our own terms and we openly acknowledge our differences, and how easily we irritate each other. Distance is good for us!

Yes, they and their partners are my best friends.

I've two brothers and they're both pricks.

But they're my best friends, too.

I get on with my siblings but I doubt I'll see either of my brothers (especially my eldest) when my parents die.
We don't fight or anything and we get on on the rare occasions we see each other. If something happens like either of us winding up in hospital we call each other but that's honestly about the only time. Maybe it's the age gap.
I get on with my sister and think we'll still keep in touch no matter what.
Despite it all I know if something went wrong all of them would be here for me.

I tolerate one sister and she tolerates me. I dislike her because she's controlling and likes to put me down, but always subtly so I can't pull her up for it. At family events, we will chat and there's no atmosphere but all the time, I'm thinking 'I really, really dislike you'. When our parents pass away, I can't imagine we'll have much to do with each other and our children will be if an age to stay in touch independently of us.

However, I would never allow our dislike of each other to cause problems at get togethers; it would really upset my mum.

I really like my other sister but we've had our moments too.

It disappoints me that I don't get on well with both of them, though. I'm very envious of people what say their siblings are their best friends.

Two sisters, we are very close but I live on different continents so they don't get on my nerves. We've had ups and downs. Me and older sister have similar personalities, but my middle sister is completely different so there have been frictions, especially when dealing with stressful situations.

No relationship with my eldest brother who is a textbook sociopath and drug-addict with all the trimmings.

I have a good, loving relationship with my middle brother. We're very close. Geography divides us, but other than that, ours is a very truthful, loving friendship. He's my best mate, really. We went through a lot growing up with a drug-addicted brother. Sadly, it's what has come to define our bond over the course of our living. Our brother got out of prison about a year and a bit ago and it's just a bit tiresome. Same shit, different year.
I resent my eldest brother tremendously for dragging so many into his toxic spiral.

No, and we avoided seeing each other more than once a year for the last 30 years.
Our parents died this year, and obv we have had to see each other, but after the money is all sorted I doubt we will ever have contact again.

I have a good relationship with my actual sibling, we're very alike and into the same stuff which helps.

I wish I got on better with my step siblings, but things are still quite awkward. My dc (older than theirs) see them as aunts and uncles, but I'm not seen as an aunty by their dc. In fact I hardly see their dc at all anymore which stings as I really love those kids, and was dying to be a doting aunt to them, but It's just one of those things I suppose. I think there was potential for my step sister and I to be closer, we live reasonably near each other, get along okay and have some hobbies in common, but her dh really dislikes me (not sure why), and I do sometimes wonder if she'd married someone else who didn't feel that way about me, things would be very different. Maybe not though.

I have one brother & sister. My sister is a narcissist & my brother and I aren't close due to problems in our teenage years.

We don't have family Christmases or even meet for birthdays etc.. they did both come to my wedding though.
I have an amazing relationship with my in-laws so we do everything with them.

We get on well, though our lives don’t intersect much on an everyday basis. We’ve never had an argument, mainly due to him being 9 years older and being a rather glamorous figure, more part of the grown ups when I was a child rather than a competitive sibling. He was lovely to me, even when I was being an annoying little sister. I’ve been fortunate to have him available for very helpful career and other life stages advice and then as the years went on the age difference disappeared - I feel like the older sister sometimes now re advice about his personal life etc !

Get on well with my brother. We’re not super close/best mates but we have enough shared interests to chat about (music/hobbies). At 24 he just seems to be getting mature enough to have a more adult relationship based on supporting each other.

We both have complex feelings about our parents and probable undiagnosed autism in the family and we’ve just recently been able to talk about that more openly. I help him out with things like writing his CV when he was at risk of redundancy, he would cancel his plans to fix my car! Overall there is a real sense of having each other’s backs.

I never really thought about what my adult relationship with him would be like (I’m 4 years older so saw him as a kid until recently!) but I’m really happy with how things turned out.

Yes, and their partners and nieces and nephews.

1 brother, we aren’t close and definitely drifting as we get older. There’s no issue we are just quite different and he irritates me if I’m honest.
I love him, we’d always be there for each other. But I don’t actually enjoy his company these days. I’m 42 he’s 39.

He lives about 1.5hrs away and I see him 3-4 times a year at most. Less since Covid.

1 brother, didn’t get on at all when we were younger (couldn’t be in a room for 5 minutes without arguing) it’s got better as we’ve got older, we tolerate each other at family dinners but don’t have any relationship outside of that.
I do wonder what will happen when my parents are no longer alive (hopefully a long way off!) I doubt if we will see each other at all

THIS ^ we talk occasionally, usually over what to buy a parent for birthday/christmas.

Yes, I have a big family, and I love them all. Of course they wind me up sometimes and I them, but I wouldn’t be without any of them. I really hope my children will have the same close relationships.

Yes. Brothers and a sister. Adore them, infuriated by them, adore them

One of my brothers is having a shit time at the moment and we’ve all rallied round to support him which has been so lovely.

DH is NC with his only brother who is an epic twat and a flying monkey. Their parents are despicable people and the SIL is a bitch so we have nothing to do with any of them. DH is sad to miss out on having a relationship with his nieces but happy to have no contact with his DB and the endless cycle of toxic nastiness they give off.

Yes one sibling, don’t see them much (live on opposite sides of the country!) but we get on very well when we’re together. Also they’re great with DC. ☺️
I have a SIL who I don’t get on with though we just cut her off and don’t bother with her less drama that way.