Aibu for not telling him off for laughing

[confusedmumof1]

Was in the supermarket with my 22 month old. He was hysterically laughing in a fake laugh for most of the shopping trip and i was laughing at him as it was a funny laugh i hadnt Heard him do before. I’ve since realised I think he was laughing at people in their masks but at the time I didn’t piece it together. Anyway he laughed at a little girl, she turned to her mum and said ‘mummy that little boy laughed at me’ in a really over the top whiny voice. To which the mum replied ‘it’s okay darling, some children don’t have manners, the little boys mummy should have told him off’ i just Walked off as i hate Confrontation but it’s playing on my mind. The girl was in school uniform so was at least 4/5. I don’t think me or my son did anything wrong. I’m not going to tell him off for laughing and having fun. Obviously when he’s older i would Tell him off straight away if he’s knowingly laughing at people to be hurtful. But he’s 22 months old and at that age everything is funny. AIBU?

If I was that girls mum, I'd have said to my dd 'aww, he's just a baby, he's not laughing in a mean way'. Her response was ridiculous.

He’s a baby!

I can't believe some people say YABU! Kid isn't even 2...nothing malicious is going on, and it's not like they are laughing at anything bad or rude! The mum was rude Tbh!!

I'd have told the other mum not to be so ridiculous then wouldn't have given it another thought. He's under the age of 2, he's not being mean ffs.

He's 22 months, I wouldn't have told him off. The womans daughter is probably whiny because of her. She's picked up on her bad habits.

Manners!!! What a ridiculous thing to say. He's a baby!! I think it's lovely that he was comfortable with them.

That lady is just being obnoxious, please try not to worry about it. My niece would laugh her head off at that age if I showed her my newly painted blue nails or said hello/thank you/goodbye in Italian. (As an example). Toddlers laughing is a thing of joy!

You met a mummy's little princess. When she gets into the real world she will understand what a awful person her mother is. In the meantime you can feel superior as a parent and a human being. Continue laughing with your son.

I would have replied “he’s a baby” and laughed along with him. But then I’m a bit confrontational if someone else starts it 🤷🏻‍♀️

I would have said "It's not polite to comment on other people's behaviour in front of them" and given a hard stare.

If she was only 4/5 she might not have been aware that he wasn’t laughing at her. It’s still very young. Her mum should have just said never mind he’s a baby and ignored but you could also just brush off what she said considering that she is also just a little girl.

I’m pretty sure 22 month old don’t have manners. Literally incapable of having them.

My DS is 20 months old and I doubt very much he’s going to suddenly develop deep cognitive abilities in the next 2 months. He spends most of his day putting toast in his ear.

She was a knob ignore her.

@Kanaloa i don’t hold any grudges against what the girl said. It was the mums response which threw me. I’m over it now anyway. Just wanted to know whether I was in the wrong for not telling my son off!

Yanbu

The mum sounds like hard work. It’s a tot laughing. What exactly were you supposed to do?

The mum should have left it alone or explained that it’s just a happy baby, not be rude about it. She sounds like she’s the one that needs some manners.

I have it officially recorded in Doctor's notes, that my youngest, at that age, was 'a giggle monster'.

She cheered up the whole fecking waiting room, not to mention the Doctor.

They're babies, doing what babies do, being elemental little creatures, living in the moment. He was harming nothing and nobody.

The little girl, sadly, is learning from her tree, who is a puffed up snob, from the sounds of it.

Ffs ridiculous. YANBU.

Toddlers...At around the same age, my ds pointed at a lady in the supermarket and yelled 'FAT'!!!
I don't know what it was he was trying to say, as he wasn't properly talking by then, but I wanted the ground to swallow me up...

The other mum was a nutter!

Definitely not being u reasonable But it may be that the mum didn't actually clock that she was talking about your little boy. To be honest my dd (5) talks all of the time that she's awake and as a preservation technique I don't always listen with 100% attention so if she said to me that someone laughed at her, I might clock that she was upset and offer a 'bucking up' statement, without fully clocking that she was being a bit ott in being upset by a baby.

A laughing 22 month old in the supermarket sounds much nicer than a whining 4 year old tbh. And her mum was rude for passive aggressively criticising your parenting.

Love a proper giggly little one! Surely most people would’ve just smiled? You can’t be offended by a baby laughing, I would never assume they were laughing at me or being rude.

Aww, he's a baby! YANBU

You've just given me the loveliest memory of dc's toddler laughing at anything - it's a beautiful sound--no-one actually knows that's what he was laughing at, mummy and Princess are ridiculous!

Describing the little girl as ‘Whiney and over the top’ is unnecessary and unpleasant imo

A baby and toddlers laugh is one of the nicest sounds, it's infectious.
He doesn't know what manners are, he's still a baby.
Ignore the daft woman. If anyone is lacking in manners it's her.
Enjoy your babies innocence.