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To be unsure about DH's different level of ambition/motivation?

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Thoushallnotbreak · 28/09/2020 13:02

When I met DH, we were very young and both had busy, full lives. Fifteen years later, I feel like we've fallen into a rut. Not in our relationship but in life motivation terms.

For the past few years, DH has become slowly less and less motivated to do anything. His life is just his phone, a job he doesn't particularly like and he just does nothing.

I find this really difficult as we had so many plans to travel, days out with the children, plans for home improvements, I would like to go on to further study, etc.

It just seems so difficult to get anything done and live the life I wanted for myself, for us, or the children. I'm usually a positive person but this is really dragging me down with it.

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Thoushallnotbreak · 28/09/2020 16:02

Anyone? ConfusedGrin

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thisusernameismine · 28/09/2020 16:03

Not coming from a place of experience here, but have you ever spoken about this? How does he respond and react?

doctorhamster · 28/09/2020 16:10

My DH is like this these days. He works long hours in a stressful job and has no energy left for anything else. Is that the issue with your DH?

Thoushallnotbreak · 28/09/2020 19:10

@doctorhamster no, he's working from home at the moment and barely does anything, so I guess he's lacking motivation in all areas. Blush

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bridgetreilly · 28/09/2020 19:21

Might he have depression? Lack of motivation is a really common symptom.

thisusernameismine · 28/09/2020 19:47

Have you brought it up with him?

HyaluronicHippo · 28/09/2020 19:49

What limits you from having the lifestyle? Is it money, time or lack of enthusiasm? Or all three?

Thoushallnotbreak · 28/09/2020 21:02

@HyaluronicHippo It's lack of enthusiasm and motivation on his part.

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