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Polish PIL

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NatU123 · 27/09/2020 22:19

Hi everyone!

This is my first post so I hope I'm posting in the right place 🙃
I just want some advice regarding my PIL.

They live in Poland and we are in the UK. Dh & I have always been to visit them in Poland, they haven't been here to visit but do go to Egypt every year.
I fell pregnant and we invited them to come and stay with us when the baby would be a couple of months old. Initially they said they would come but then Mil said to DH that her claustrophobia was getting worse so she wouldn't be coming and for us to go to her. She does have claustrophobia but I find it a little strange that only now when we have invited her to stay with us she cannot fly...and even if that's the case she could take medication? The airport is 3 hrs away from where we live plus time at the airport and 3 hour flight, we don't particularly want to make such a long journey with a baby (Ds is now 7 months old) yet I feel like he's missing out on having GP. Am I being unreasonable to not take him to them?
BTW they never ask about him...it's always me updating them on DS or sending photos although I don't bother so much anymore. They have GC that live nearby and they are very involved in their lives. I had just hoped that they would make more effort. They are missing out on so much.

Thanks for any advice :)

OP posts:
Chickychickydodah · 14/11/2020 12:46

Focus on your lovely baby and husband, and on being happy in your little unit. I know it hurts, but fuck them - if they're not interested it is their loss.

This !
Enjoy your baby and leave them to it.

EnjoyingTheSilence · 14/11/2020 12:55

Your baby isn’t missing out on anything. They are the ones missing out on seeing their son, his wife and their grandchild.

Yes it’s upsetting that they’re not interested but concentrate on the people around you that you care for and care for you.

forrestgreen · 14/11/2020 12:58

Yep get dh to send a text to ask when they're visiting.
And stop sending photos, make them show some interest.

If they fob you off I wouldn't be bothered making all that effort and expense to see people who really cba.

Dishwashersaurous · 14/11/2020 13:17

They are not interested.

You need to reimagine the relationship that you thought your child would have.

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