Hi all,
This isn’t massive deal but I would like to knkw what everyone thinks for the sake of reference.
I have a 11 month old who has been not sleeping well at all the past two or 3 days.
So today I slept in till quite late while DH took care of them and fed them in the morning.
Admittedly also laundry is everywhere and the bedroom is a mess because it has been piling and struggling to cope.
I have a toddler and a baby both with runny nose and DH is a key worker and has also been ill and so with my lack of sleep and his inability to help out until today I had to prioritize my sanity over laundry and mess..
To add to that, when I woke up at 11 am, My daughter was completely undressed in her nappy and roaming around with dry snot everywhere. It’s fine to be naked as our flat is well insulated and warm. I usually dress them up first thing in the morning but as I wasn’t awake I didn’t.
So the question is... DH has very judgemental parents who have history of slating me and have the opinion that if I’m staying at home with the kids then I have all the time in the world to have everything in perfect order.. sickness and lack of sleep is never an excuse and have indeed been very rude to me about it in the past.
The question is.. he video called his parents with my undressed daughter crawling around the messy bedroom while he fully know that they have a past of berating me for my housekeeping and parenting to an unreasonable level.
I was pissed off and told him that when he calls his parents he should have made sure whatever he is videoing at least looks presentable.. and that this has caused them to judge me as an unfit mother whixh they have been keen to do before I even gave birth.
He said, it’s not his fault and that they asked to see the kids and so he showed them and that it’s fine he takes the feedback on board but that he wasn’t to know that it would upset me.
AIBU to assume the average human being would cover up his mess/snot/undressed kids and a bad morning from his parents especially if he knows it causes them to judge his wife?
Or is that not his issue and it’s all with his parents ?
We are not close to his parents specifically because they don’t respect our privacy and have made intrusive remarks and comments about our personal lives.. and I’m afraid today we just gave them ammunition.
Yes- you are unreasonable to assume he should not just be himself with his parents
No- you are not unreasonable and he should naturally want to protect his family image Infront of his parents who have caused marriage issues in the past