Eleanor Rigby

[Miniestelle]

Hi am new to munsnet. I feel a bit daft to be honest. But my divorce was finalised 3 years ago. Ex is now happily married. We have 2 children together girl aged 13 and boy aged 7. We share the childcare. Things haven't been very good but that's not what I want ask advice about.

I haven't got remarried. I haven't even met anyone I would like to 're marry. Or even date. Ex met someone within 3 months, married her the next month. I darent do internet dating, I married him because loved him and wanted to spend my life with him for better or worse.. I feel I am too old I am 42. I think it's going to be a long and lonely life. Am I unreasonable to hope that i there is chance I could meet some else at 42 years old? There must allways be hope, but I don't think so for me.

If it's any consolation, I'm 59 and I get hit on regularly.

I have absolutely no desire to reciprocate, unfortunately for them, but it's still possible to find a man (should one want one) after the age of 42!

Most of the men who try it on are quite decent too and would make a lovely partner for someone...

You've got thirty or more years yet, to love and be loved!

Thank you all ever so much for sharing your stories and being kind to me. I appreciate every comment and reply. I've looked at myself in the mirror during look down and since them then. And I a, horrified. It's like I have aged 10 years in 6 months.

@VeryQuaintIrene

I met the love of my life at 42, 14 years ago. Courage!

Thank you so much for replying, yes, Courage!! I agree xx

I'm long term single by choice after a divorce, but tried internet dating at age 63 for fun. Met men in the day time for a coffee - short meet, then follow on dates if we both wanted to.

Try the dating thread in Relationships for advice. Nice bunch there!

I met DHx2 when i was 36. I felt old then. I know now that i wasn't.

We got married when i was 40. I felt old then. I know now that i wasn't.

I had DD4 when i was 43. I felt old then. .... come on you know what i'm going to say I WASN'T.

You need a body/mind overhaul OP. Don't waste time sitting around thinking you're old. You aren't!!

Do something which boosts your confidence. Get out there. You've got years and years and years ahead of you!

Ex met someone within 3 months, married her the next month

Your ex is a twat who has given no consideration to your children’s emotional needs. The only way you should be comparing yourself to him is to feel superior.

FWIW, I feel like Eleanor Rigby too.

I have granny hairs on my chin!! I pluck them too. The joys of being 43. I divorced 2 years ago and met a new guy online a year ago. It’s been a bit up and down and I’m not going to say that forever is all sorted but he’s a nice guy and we like each other a lot. I’m confident that if it didn’t work out with him I’d find someone new just fine.

Don’t sell yourself short! Why wouldn’t you find love again? There’s plenty of 40/50 year old guys looking for love too you know!

I clicked YANBU by mistake (the vote is confusing, tbh). 42 is absolutely not too old to find love again. There is someone out there for you! Your ex moved on too quickly.