Posting here for traffic.
Before the inevitable Mumsnet stepmum flaming let me say the following:
I have a great relationship with my stepkids and their mother, I was never the OW, met long after DH and his ex separated. They have bedrooms at our house, they are very much part of the family and I generally just keep my nose out and try to be the stepmother I'd want my children to have.
I have two DC 3&1yo and two DSC 8&9. They currently come to us 2 out of 3 weekends, Friday after school to school on Monday. Split school holidays - half terms here, half of Easter and summer hols, alternate Christmases. They live with their mum 25 miles away and she and DH share a rota for all the arrangements.
I'm just wondering how feasible/likely to continue this will be as they grow into teens and want to do their own thing on weekends with their own friends!
So those of you with teenagers, or teenage DC, what is their contact like with their non resident parent? I wouldn't expect say a 15 year old to spend 2/3 weekends away from friends but also I do want them to keep coming over, I love them and want my kids to have a relationship with their siblings!
I'm really just being nosey as I know this won't be a concern for a number of years.