Feeling shitty with dh

[StormsDontLastForever]

Feeling shitty in general the last few days, anxiety bad & emotional constantly. DM has taken DD for the night to give me a break. DH is sitting on his gaming pc opposite me on the other couch, with his headset on. Feeling rubbish we thought we could watch a

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Film or something together and actually have some time together. Not worth me even saying anything as I previously did and basically got told that's what's happening and that's it

Do you want to chat on here for a bit, OP? Have a bit of a rant?

I think you should speak to him, things won't improve if you sit seething in silence.

''I previously did''
this evening, or another time OP?

I feel for you by the way. A good 50% of the reason i divorced XH was the amount of time he spent sitting with his back to me with earphones on. Despite me trying to be social :(

@JamieLeeCurtains I feel like all I do is rant on here 😂 xx

@CandlesBlanketsandTea I am just trying to avoid the argument, aibu at being annoyed?

@Laiste this time & previous!

He comes home from work gets a shower goes on the gaming thing until bed. Literally the same everyday, I thought since my DM had taken DD we could have had some couple time. He's not one for watching tv much he usually just plays his gaming thing and I don't bother because I'm busy running about doing housework or dealing with DD etc, maybe because I'm not feeling great tonight that's why it's more of a deal to me tonight

Did you suggest a film before he got on the gaming?

I would just have a night to yourself have a nice long shower or bath and if you have a tablet or laptop watch something you want to watch in bed.

Don’t let him and his gaming ruin your night off! Make sure you relax tonight!

I think short term and long term, it sounds a bit sht, OP.

Do you are a child free couple tonight and he wants to spend it gaming?

Most women I know would expect to be taken out for a nice meal!

If you say I’d like to spend some time together and he refuses, I’d make it a point to be out with my friends the next time I didn’t have the kids.

Personally I would go stay with dm.... Wouldn't be missing my dc to look at a man child gaming
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I think if you have a small child or any child, it's a reasonable expectation you'd have some time together tonight. Did you say this before now?

Good luck to you OP.
Don't waste too many more years on him.

Well, it's a bit obvious he's shown where his priorities lie.

Start living your own life, OP. You're a long time dead.

Can you go out with a friend? If he's not interested in spending time together, you might as well enjoy the child-free time in some other way

Could you settle down in front of the screen in a chair, with a good book?

And when he does his nut, ask him how much he's looking forward to the more mundane aspects of not having a wife around, and having to do 50% of the childcare on his own, without a wife around? And the upset and expense of dividing up the marital assets?

Or does he think that a stitch in this relationship at this time, might yet, save nine?

I would definitely go out for few cocktails with my friends if I were you, dont even say anything, just get all dolled up and leave the house x

I'm a gamer and yes, sometimes after a long day, I want some escapism in the form of a video game. However, I am also aware that it is a solitary activity. I've tried to get DH interested so we could play multiplayer games together but it's not for him.

So, we compromise. I get time to play and he goes and messes around with his guitar or his ever-increasing computer server system we have in the house. Other times we sit and watch TV, just chat with some music on in the background, watch a movie, Netflix and chill. The point is, the less time you spend together, the further you will drift apart. Relationships need work. I know you know this but does he?

I just wrote this in another thread but it applies here too. You need to talk to each other. If he refuses to talk or just refuses to see your point of view, then you're going to have to think long and hard about whether you want to be a Gaming Widow.

Sorry everyone I lay down after my bath and fell asleep. I did offer to play a game with him but got told "no can't be bothered playing that tonight" feels like I can't win at the moment. He's not very hands on with DD either, infact he doesn't do anything except occasionally shower her when I ask him to if I am busy. I am a SAHM he has the views that he works all day so when he comes in it's his time. Have had countless arguments about it as DD is also his responsibility. On the same hand I won't leave him, I basicallly just shut up and put up with it 🙄