To think this is utterly abnormal?

[Swimminginroses]

I know a lady who if she falls out with anyone will bin or return anything bought for that person.
Even if that person happens to be someone close, like their (adult) child or grandchild.

AIBU in thinking this is really abnormal?
Just needlessly spiteful?

Nope definitely not normal.

Does she fall out with a lot of people?

Does she fall out with people very often then? That in itself isn't really normal in my opinion.

As I thought.
And yes, she does.

How many gifts does she have lying around for people?

This would hardly be a regular occurrence.

It sounds very extreme and not a measured response. Are they usually quite high strung and impulsive? Sounds a bit like a teenager having a strop rather than an adult.

Sounds like someone I used to know - she doesn't live in Sussex does she?!

It’s really odd but more odd that she has fallen out so badly with multiple people. She sounds very volatile.

I think the fact she falls out with people is abnormal in itself. Her behaviour of binning or return stuff they bought fits in with that sort of a personality.

Routinely falling out with people including close family members is odd. The gifts part of the scenario is confusing me. Do you mean gifts she has received from that person?

How many gifts does she have lying around for people?
Are they usually quite high strung and impulsive?
I’ll try answer as vaguely as I can as I’m always so paranoid about someone reading one of my threads and thinking ‘I know that person!’ (Have name changed for this thread)

This person’s fights are usually with her (adult) children who all have children so she therefore often has gifts lying around waiting to be given.

And no, I wouldn’t call her high strung, though maybe a bit impulsive.

Gifts lying around that she has bought for her adult children and grandchildren I mean, incase it wasn’t clear.

Tbh, the gifts lying around for multiple family members sounds a bit odd to me!

My late and unlamented grandmother used to do this. It was purely manipulation to get all of the grandchildren trying to be the one in favour. It's very very toxic

I automatically wonder about the character of a person who regularly falls out with people. It’s not a good sign and the returning or binning things just seems needlessly spiteful.

Yes, she is a toxic, manipulative character unfortunately.

I wasn’t aware of the gift situation until tonight, my immediate reaction was one of horror then I second guessed myself for a moment.