To think we've had a particular run of bad luck.

[Davespecifico]

Or is this just life?
Covid
Furlough
Daughter developed depression and eating disorder
Lost all 3 holidays due to covid and quarantine rules
Burgled while in bed: both cars and all devices stolen
Daughter sent home from school cos exposed to covid and no car to collect her therefore £40 taxi there and back
2 /3 hour public transport to get to work

I can't wait for things to get better, though they could be worse.

How many times can I say "sympathy"

That does sound like a worse run of luck than most people I know.

That’s a shit year, especially being burgled. It’s such a scary thing to have happen.

Our 2020 has also been a shitter. Highlights as follows :

• DS2 stillborn
• I nearly died of multiple organ failure
• made redundant
• DH made redundant

Plus all the usual Covid pish, issues with DSD, family weddings cancelled, general pants time for everyone really.

So sorry about your son Giespeace

Sorry to read that @Giespeace

I’m so sorry Giespeace

Yanbu to say that is a run of bad luck.
Others saying others have had it bad does not negate it being a crap time for you. It ain't a competition.
I really hope things start moving in a positive direction for you all really quickly.

Would have loved to have been able to have three holidays cancelled.

Shitty run of luck OP, sadly there’s always people much worse. (Ironically it’s what makes me feel better)

Yanbu this year is shit.

So sorry to hear about your son @Giespeace.

It has been a shit year for everyone, but you can still feel stressed about your own situation.

For us, DH hasn’t been able to work in his industry, so money has been a worry. However, this year has been a breeze for me compared to the last two, so I’m counting my personal blessings whilst feeling empathy for those who are going through their shittest of shit times now.

for you OP, and for @Giespeace too .

Sorry I have limited sympathy as I would have killed to have had one holiday booked, let alone 3. Have you tried practicing gratitude?

Please ignore the professional misery competitor, there's always one.
It sounds like a lot of shit piling up, and burglary whilst sleeping is an awful think to deal with mentally.

I hope your insurance can help you get some kind of car replacement.

Some posters have resolutely put "holidays" as a luxury. Each to their own, they are one of our priorities. Suck to be them if they turn into a martyr because of their bad choice.

You poor, poor things op. You have had a really bad run of things.
I kind of agree though with a pp,
2020 has been crap and covid has had such a knock on effect on so many things...
6 weeks pre covid one of my dc got very , very ill with chicken pox , totally different experience to what we’ve had with our other dcs. Weight loss , extremely sick , the poor thing. So already missed weeks of school and I was juggling work etc, this was pre covid!!
I had just gone back to picking up loads of work after being very much at home with the dcs when they were all babies and toddlers . Suddenly felt very happy with work life balance, freedom and stimulation with work and being able to spend time with dcs after school. Great for my mental health and everything.
Me and my dh also set up a yurt style holiday thing which was a roaring success the 2 years before with international tourists mainly..
So then all schools, childcare closed , lost loads of hours as couldn’t work with kids at home . Lost hundreds of bookings.
I had gotten really fit but couldn’t work out with kids at home.. Loads of other crap cropped up ... It’s hard to be positive as even though I totally get it when plp day this isn’t s bad as war or some awful situations in the world, when it’s one thing on top of another it can be very debilitating. I also think covid can be a bit divisive as I’ve had friends who’ve found it almost wonderful. They have been on full pay , no work /way less work, bags of time etc whereas it was totally different for us and for others.
Here’s do 2021 op!!😬

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It sounds like a really tricky time. I hope things pick up for you soon.

Also it’s perfectly possible to be grateful for the things you have in life but still feel disappointed when other things go wrong. Ignore the posters who only seem to view life in absolutes.

Also, with all the shit going on it's harder to deal with things individually because it all gets wrapped up in a big pile of aaaarghcovid But a burglary (especially when you lose as much as you did) and a child being ill are both inherently stressful situations, whenever they happen, pandemic or not, so I wouldn't be counting my bloody blessings either.

YANBU OP, that sounds pretty grueling.

I'd imagine rather than having three separate holidays booked at once, it's more likely after the first was cancelled, OP tried to book elsewhere and when that was cancelled tried again?

Is this the real life?
Is this just fantasy?
Caught in a landslide
No escape from reality.

@Giespeace I'm so very sorry

2020 has been a shitstorm all round

In February I had endometriosis surgery that went tits up and I ended up with a catheter for 2 months.

Covid

My husband was put on a reduced wage despite working full time hours. This has meant we can't totally pay our rent as i was on a reduced rate due to sick

My cousin who is my age passed away and no one was allowed to visit him in hospital at all. I couldn't go to the funeral due to covid restrictions.

In July just after lockdown was lifted we visited my parents for the first time... my dad became suddenly unwell and we took him to hospital thinking it was a stroke. It was a Glioblastoma and sadly my dad passed away age 74 less than 5 weeks later. We were not allowed to visit him until the day he passed so I feel those precious last weeks with my dad were cruelty stolen from us.

My daughter has had a ear infection that has caused her ear drum to pop and had a fever for 4 days

Now they have placed a local lockdown on the place where my mum lives alone so I can't get to her!

I can now feel the endometriomas growing back as I haven't had scans or follow up from my surgery and my GP is being a nightmare and refuses to give me pain meds

Wow, competitive misery - mine's worse than yours so na na, na na naa!

Op sorry you've had a shit time, burglary is horrible and i hope your daughter is doing ok. x

I think previous posters have misunderstood me. When I suggested the OP practice gratitude I was referring to the formal practice of keeping a gratitude journal etc. Scientific research shows that it has positive benefits to mental health. I've personally found it very helpful when I've been going through a tough time. Apologies if I came over as insensitive.