Too high to come home. AIBU to be pissed off?

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Partner of 5 years, father of 1. Smokes weed recreationally a couple times a month - always away from the house / never with DD is awake. Goes to a friend house and then walks home after.

Twice now in the past few weeks has he not come home, the first time he didn’t tell me until I tried calling him when DD woke me at 5. Last night a text in the early hours saying he was too stoned to come home.

AIBU in saying that a grown up father shouldn’t get to the stage where he can’t come home due to excessive drug use?

I’m more sensitive than usual due to no sleep as has bloody road builder people outside making a racket all night long!

On a previous post, you say your 22 month old toddler stays at her Dad's...is this man you've been with for 5 years not her Dad or don't you live together?

What time does he come home in the morning ? To be honest I wouldn't be that annoyed about this. I used to quite like it on the odd occasion when DH would go on a night out and stay with someone who lives in town.

As long as he isn't taking the piss and staying away the whole next day

AIBU in saying that a grown up father shouldn’t get to the stage where he can’t come home due to excessive drug use?

YANBU, but sadly many fathers duck out of responsibility and get drunk/stoned on a regular basis. Is this the life you want to live forever?

As someone who enjoys a smoke from time to time, he's definitely using something else if he's texting you at 5am! No-one has stayed up until 5am getting stoned 😂

I used to smoke a ridiculous amount of weed. Not proud of it, just giving you some context.

I have never heard of someone being too high to walk a few mins home. What he meant was he couldn't be bothered, or didn't want to for some reason.

I’m more sensitive than usual

You’re not sensitive enough! Wake up, this man is prioritising drugs over his own child.

Was he drinking as well?

thats handy hes elsewhere as you can tell him not to bother coming back....you wont have to try and get him out.....
get a lock on the door/change the locks
keep the text - he starts any crap about it being his house too... you can share his texts with court...
start the process of seperating/tenancies etc
I promise you , you and your childs life will be better without a dope head in it.......
it may take a while but an addict is rarely/never a positive addition to a household

I also echo what others are saying. I smoke too occasionally and you're never "too stoned" to walk home. ...unless you're having a bad turn and turning green...but in that case he would not be able to text you .
Either he was doing something he shouldn't have been doing..or hes just checked out of family life and doesn't care.

Another wondering what's her name.

I know you probably don't want to hear this but taking or smoking drugs would be a deal breaker with me even if it was twice a month. I drink alcohol so I know that is hypocritical.

Is he smoking stronger stuff? If you can deal with the drugs maybe try and get to the bottom of why it's affecting him more. I'd be worried he is getting into other drugs

You'd be mad NOT to be pissed off.

Is he back yet?