To say that....

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Anyone who has not had covid, has kept their well paid, comfortable wfh job, stayed healthy and enjoyed the time with their families, has then been very fortunate throughout this time?

I agree

Yep I agree but I’m sure there’s people who will say “ but they could’ve had all that plus furlough time off still on full wages” . Queue onslaught. Unfortunately there is the “ grass is greener” perception right?

DH and I would both heartily agree with you.

Well, obviously.

However, you don't really know about everything in their life and people are absolutely be allowed to be upset about other things. So fortunate in these matters. Yeah. In others? Maybe not so much.
Or maybe they were fortunate in all.

Is that a problem?

I sad to DH if we get to the end of year with everyone still well and a job we will be very blessed indeed and he agrees. It’s been very tough at times WFH and trying to look after the kids whilst he’s been out at work but we are very very lucky so far

I agree OP. I have taken a reduction in pay and hours that may last through to next year, but as DP's work hasn't been negatively affected it's not been a big problem. I enjoyed the extra time off and slower pace of life.

The only real impacting factor for me is that I haven't seen a single member of my family since last September and probably won't now until at least last March as they're in a place with local lockdown and I'm in a place with 14 days quarantine on return from there. I am accustomed to not seeing them for lengths of time though so it's manageable.

I've kept my income (retired) I've enjoyed DD not commuting 60 miles a day, staying safe in her "office" ( small upstairs bedroom). Do I feel lucky? No. I know I've done better than most, but the underlying anxiety has never left. I'm not immune to hearing about 40k + dying and feeling helpless as this government flips and flops around.

This is what you get when you elect a journalist. Someone who does what is popular, not what is right

Yes but then I think the wider effects will affect everyone for years to Come.

Yes, absolutely. That’s the situation I am in and I am very aware of just how lucky and privileged that makes me.

Absolutely. I say that and both my husband and I are those people. I feel exceptionally lucky.

My colleague kept his well paid wfh job, wasn't furloughed and spent time with his wife and daughter through lockdown, posting photography images of their nature walks throughout. He committed suicide at the weekend.
Focus on your own life

It depends on what judgements you are making. How do you know any of those things about them? How do you know their job is "comfortable", or that their mental health is fine, or what ever else they may have going on? It's easy to make assumptions and judgements.

I'm puzzled as to why you have posted this? There is some resentment there, it seems.

@Pearsapiece

My colleague kept his well paid wfh job, wasn't furloughed and spent time with his wife and daughter through lockdown, posting photography images of their nature walks throughout. He committed suicide at the weekend. Focus on your own life

Exactly.

And oh god, how awful for him and his loved ones

Pearsapiece
“ My colleague kept his well paid wfh job, wasn't furloughed and spent time with his wife and daughter through lockdown, posting photography images of their nature walks throughout. He committed suicide at the weekend.
Focus on your own life “

^^
This. Lucky until you scratch the surface. You never know what’s going on behind closed doors or in someone’s head.

YABU. Whilst I am fortunate compared to the people you’ve described, I don’t think anyone is fortunate full stop in this situation.

I’ve been relatively unscathed apart from a temporary pay cut, which was largely offset by the lack of commuting costs. But I went months without seeing anyone who wasn’t a shop assistant. I’m not sure I’ll even be ‘allowed’ home for Christmas. Like a hell of a lot of people, I wake up with a slightly dull feeling - not even sorrow anymore - because I know anything I want to do at is at worst impossible and at best has ‘subject to social distancing’ in brackets. I know almost any conversation will be built around or at least feature this bloody virus.

I really don’t want to hear how lucky I am. What do you you’re achieving?

Yes we consider ourselves very fortunate

Actually I have worked In office the whole way through. No WFH, no furlough (Domicillary home care manager) it really annoys me that it seems we are forgotten!! I had to take a dip in wage due to my sons key worker club finishing at 2pm meaning as a single mum I lost 10 hours of wage per week. I don't get topped up, I don't get any government furlough. I actually haven't been able to have time with my children like everyone else I see! Yes it's very difficult for all but it seems the people actually still going out to work are punished, we have been and are still business as usual and busier then ever. Elderly always need carers! People in care have received nothing. No bonuses. Furlough get paid, wfh get paid but the people helping keep things running are forgotten about.

Yes, I would say they were fortunate - at the moment.

I was thinking earlier today that I've been in a Covid bubble, I know absolutely no one who has lost a job, nor anyone who has been seriously ill with Covid (I know people who have had it, but weren't desperately ill).

I was wondering if it's based on location / age / social group. I really feel very lucky.

Yes, of course they are fortunate. My DH worked throughout, despite receiving a diagnosis of a condition he should have shielded for halfway through lockdown. His career has been unaffected, in fact he's expanded his work as I was home to do all childcare and running about after our families.

My DS (additional needs) struggled terribly. I lost my job almost immediately (no pay now since April) and I've been set back years financially and in terms of my son's and my own mental health.

Two households I know have actually prospered due to wfh saving money and their relationships become happier, children and pets happier and they have done lots to the house.

I see this through jealous eyes, I know I do. But nobody I know has passed away or suffered greatly with Covid, so I'm sure those that have experienced that would say I've been fortunate too.

I can tick every box of the above... except my well paid job in social care included seeing/hearing about lots of people dying every day. Oh and then my gran died in a care home whilst on a sheet break at 74. I don't think it is helpful to compare. Everyone has experienced something over the last few months. Everyone I know is drained in some way. We qre in a pandemic... i can't see that there have been any winners.

Yes extremely fortunate to have family members who need but are unable to access health care, due to their conditions being de-prioritised due to Covid.

Your OP is far too simplistic.

I tick that box. I'm lucky. I also don't have little ones to look after, it's just me and my partner in a happy, cozy relationship in a nice home. I don't have the suffering that comes with the rest. The pandemic isn't fair and I know I'm privileged, but I didn't knowingly choose to pandemic like this - I didn't see it coming. So I just sit back, listen, when others describe their experience because I do need to know what's going on.

I had a friend ring me up and say how fortunate they have been throughout this and also how well their business is thriving.
Just felt it was insensitive knowing I have been made redundant and also knowing I have been diagnosed with a second chronic illness during this time.

I've kept my shit pay stressful job, mainly because demand went up 700% in the field I work in (domestic violence) - am I still lucky? 🙄