To think this is just awful and uncalled for

[Whenismumhome]

I was taking DD to school this morning and there were a group of women standing at the gates (obviously parents who had just left their kids off to school themselves) talking very loudly and I don’t know what or who they were talking about, but they were swearing and cursing, I heard the words “oh she’s a f#cking c#nt”

There were other parents walking by and even more concerning, there were lots of children about, walking in through the schools gates.

They were loud enough that I could hear them while I was sitting in my car across the road with my window down.

AIBU to think it’s just wrong to do this outside a school when there are children about?

Did you say anything to them?

No eorse thsn you see on here every day. Just ignore it.

There are no primary aged kids on here, Vivienne 🙄

I swear like a trooper on MN precisely because I try very very hard not to in real life!

It wouldn't bother me tbh. Kids hear swearing all the time. If they repeat the words then it's my job to tell my kids not to repeat them and why

Yours might but mine don’t! I don’t call people fcking cunts in our house lol
They are also too young to be watching tv or films with language like that so no, they don’t hear it “all the time” what nonsense.
Little kids using language like that is so gross and horrible.

And yes it’s chavvy. Funny how people have no issue with being called a fcking cunt (a deeply misogynistic word) yet chavvy is somehow shocking

@Russellbrandshair

And yes it’s chavvy. Funny how people have no issue with being called a fcking cunt (a deeply misogynistic word) yet chavvy is somehow shocking

Yes, indeed 😂

Yours might but mine don’t! I don’t call people fcking cunts in our house lol

Neither do I, but they go to parks and shops and on buses and trains and eat out (under normal circumstances) etc and hear swear words, even kids in the playground swear. It's just another thing in life that they witness and then learn it isnt appropriate.

Obviously most people think their kids overhearing a swear word is an utter disgrace, it doesn't bother me at all.

I feel like it's my job to teach my kids to deal with life rather than shield them from it as much as possible. We all have different approaches, doesn't mean anyone is wrong, just different, and the school will deal with it as they see fit I guess.

nothing worse than foulmouthed people, common as muck, and generally of low intellect if using it normal day to day conversation

Simple answer make all the naughty swear words commplace ones so then they will loose their impact and that will be that!

Nah. I rarely do it but DD knows if I use the F word, I’m proper angry.

I am sure that as well as doing 3 H&S walks a day, managing CV19 calls and collapsing bubbles the Head has time to go out and challenge parents

Maybe speak to the parents yourself?
Or let it go?

Schools are under tremendous stress and this is not important.

@DeadFuschia

I am sure that as well as doing 3 H&S walks a day, managing CV19 calls and collapsing bubbles the Head has time to go out and challenge parents

Maybe speak to the parents yourself?
Or let it go?

Schools are under tremendous stress and this is not important.

I didn’t say I was going to tell the school about it.

I was asking if I was BU to think it was awful.

Dreadful people.

But lots of people have suggested getting the school to address it- they really dont have the time at the moment

Report to he school and they will hopefuly send an email out to remind parents that appropriate language should be used while dropping children off

I'd have a word with the head. Just plain wrong.

I have challenged exactly this before. I won’t accept it. My grandkids do not hear that language at home so they should not hear it outside school. I also challenged a man with his hands down his trousers. (I loathe the habit- eeeew ; they do this the touch stuff in shops !! I said loudly “why have you got your hands down your trousers outside a primary school?” He stopped.

@DifficultPifcultLemonDifficult

It wouldn't bother me tbh. Kids hear swearing all the time. If they repeat the words then it's my job to tell my kids not to repeat them and why.

Kids swear all the time because the parents swear all the time. And parents who swear all the time are certainly not the type of parent who would tell their kids not to repeat them.

A school near us was on the radio about it. It's probably in the worst bit of town , but has great Ofsted reports

@DeadFuschia It wouldn't take much to type up a small paragraph asking parents to refrain from it in the school newsletter.

You may not like it- but it is not illegal to swear. If you don't like swearing don't swear. Were they swearing at you? If not, then it really is none of your business. I'd tell you to jog the fuck on if I was having a conversation with my friends and you told me not to swear in said conversation.

Hi OP, totally on your side with this! Regardless of how parents speak around/to their own children in private the adults need to respect boundaries for behaviour in public. Very few people would be happy to hear that type of language at the local pub let alone at the school gates!

@Mollyboom

You may not like it- but it is not illegal to swear. If you don't like swearing don't swear. Were they swearing at you? If not, then it really is none of your business. I'd tell you to jog the fuck on if I was having a conversation with my friends and you told me not to swear in said conversation.

You would appear to be exactly the type op is talking about. It's not illegal to stand in a group outside a primary school swearing like troopers, no. Is it defendable on these grounds? Not by anyone with an ounce of class.

@Mollyboom would you be happy for your children to use that type of language?!

I didn’t say I was going to tell the school about it
But as PPs have said OP, they're not bothered about swearing in front of other people's children because they must do it in front of their own children all the time at home. You could mention at the school office and ask them to include it in their newsletter. It will make them think twice about it.

Do you not want to report it because you think they'll know it's you who reported it? If you didn't pull a face/look dissaprovingly at them, I don't see why they would know it's you. There must have been loads of other parents walking past who heard it.