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First date in years tomorrow - embarrassed about being an unemployed single mum

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TRex92 · 25/09/2020 11:12

I'm going on the first date I've had in years tomorrow. I'm a single mum of 2 young DC (6 and nearly 2 years old) and after quite a rough few years of depression and other life problems, I'm in a much better place and I'm really looking forward to a bit of adult interaction and company, even if it leads to nothing else. My problem is, I feel a bit embarrassed about my life (ok, maybe that's overdramatic) but I'm not currently in work, although, starting an access course next year which I'm very excited about. My life literally revolves around my little ones at the moment and I'm worried how I may come across. I kind of feel like I'm doing life back to front as I had my first quite young, I'm only 28 now. I've only just started driving lessons, etc. I know this is a self esteem issue and I have come on leaps and bounds with my confidence. Any advice?

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burglarbettybaby · 27/09/2020 13:44

You are doing so well. Its not easy to come out of depression. I have two kids and had dh but the whole parenting thing on your own is amazing. Tell him you are a student

murasaki · 27/09/2020 14:12

He sounds nice. Good luck with date two. As others have said, you are doing a great job with the kids and also looking to improve your lot. Well done.

TRex92 · 27/09/2020 20:07

Thanks all. 2nd date next weekend 😁

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jan9876 · 27/09/2020 20:18

hey just wanted to say please don't be embarrassed at all. I was in your situation at 29, was just getting my driving test and was unemployed due to various mental health problems. It has been a journey but life can and will be so much better -have hope that things won't stay the same. I feel like my life has completely changed since then, and I feel going through that experience changed me for the better and made me stronger. Enjoy your date and be confident in yourself, kids are a full time job anyway so you don't have anything to be ashamed about.

FOJN · 27/09/2020 20:26

Excellent news. Hope the second date goes well.

eatsleepread · 27/09/2020 21:10

Good for you! As long as you don't spend the whole time talking about your kids, you'll do great!

Jennifer2r · 27/09/2020 21:17

In my experience men don't like career high achievers.

Happyinheels · 27/09/2020 22:35

That's great news - glad it went well!

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