Seeing each other after a breakup? Any good?

[Breakupcharlie]

I broke up with my Ex-DP last week.

Not just going off MN he was CF/cocklodger/red flags (thank you all!)

I’m doing great - like a weight that’s been lifted off me.

We were together for three years, he moved in with me, there was talk of marriage but after an argument he left and tried apologising. I sent him a message saying he was right that it is over.

Since this has happened I’ve had lots of messages/calls from him. Is demanding that we see each other as that’s what adults do.

I’m 100% done. What’s the point in meeting? He knows what he’s done as we had an argument (one of many) before he left.

Sorry very much a rambling message.

Why would he want to meet if it’s not just to try to patch things up? Could meeting be closure for him?

Don’t meet him if you have no unfinished business. I’m the same as you why do you need to meet and talk if everything’s been said and a decision has been made? Block him OP and move on. Don’t look back it sounds like you’re doing well!

I wouldn't ,what's the point ?

No I wouldn't meet him.

It depends on whether you want to be friends or not. If you want to remain friends, you'll obviously need to meet up, but I'd say 3 weeks is a bit soon.

If you don't want to be friends, why would you bother? Just tell him you're done.

He's demanding to see you because he presumably still thinks he can change your mind.

Adults don't demand to see each other. If the being friends bit was genuine then he'd ask or suggest. Not demand.

If you don't want him back there is no point meeting him. Put space and time between you so you can get on and build a new life.

Stay well away. He’s hoping to wear you down.

Stay away and move on, he’s just trying to reel you back in, don’t let him.

Steer clear.

Don't do it OP!! You will iist end up having to break up with him again and again.

Yeah, he’ll be hoping to talk you round.

Thank you all.

He’s still going on about a time/date. Apparently he’s got questions he needs answering.

@Breakupcharlie

Thank you all.

He’s still going on about a time/date. Apparently he’s got questions he needs answering.

That's not your problem.

If it was about the questions he'd have just text you them and asked for the answer.

It's not about that. It's about him feeling like he has a better chance to manipulate and bully you into changing your mind in person.

Oh he’s got questions does he? I find it so infuriating that men expect women to explain WHY they don’t want to be with them, you’ve been arguing he left surly he can figure it out alone. Just it’s over isn’t good enough because they are so special they can’t fathom that a woman wouldn’t want them.

Go full Greg Davis on him and say “any questions you have just write them down and leave them in my pigeon hole, my pigeon hole can be found in any bin.”

Don’t do it. Your feeling great at the moment, don’t let the fucking bring you down.

It's not "what adults do" - I've never met up with an ex after breaking up. Not once.

If there are no children and you're not married, there's nothing else to tie up. He's just trying to weasel his way back in and demanding answers from you isn't helping his case.

If he has Qu's he can write to you.
I am not totally over an Ex. It would be a bad idea for me to see him.
You only want to meet up so quickly if you are hoping to reunite.
I wouldn't as you are doing so well. x