I've got a date this weekend

[Phillycheesesteak]

And I dont want to go I've done online dating for a few months on and off and this guy seems nice but I don't know I can't be arsed

Cancel! Life's too short to go on dates you don't want to go on.

If you’re not feeling it let him know kindly and don’t leave it too long. Better to be honest.

Its not him its just that online dating always ends up a bit crap lol

Maybe you just need a break from OLD and real life dating.

I've only been in 3 dates

Oh!
Just go with your gut, if you don’t feel like going just politely cancel.

It's the disappointment

I felt like this about my first date. Forced myself to go and loved it. Now we're married...

There are lots of frogs to be kissed, no doubt.

When I was OLD'ing back in the late Pleistocene era, I would make myself go on those dates. It's a numbers game. Eventually, I hit the jackpot.

Out of interest OP what kind of date is it? If it’s a casual coffee you could go along and see how it goes, make your excuses if he’s not for you and neither of you have invested much.
Has he said something to make you feel a bit ick? Or do you think you are just nervous he might be another no? The thing is he could be a yes! But go with your gut feeling either way.

I just feel apathetic about it which is really bad

If youre going to be apathetic on the date then best you cancel. But who knows how it might go?
If youre going to go then you owe it to both of you to not be half-hearted : put some effort in!

I do try palavah but it's hard work hahaha

If you're apathetic about wanting a relationship then stop wasting people's time on OLD.

If you are just not feeling it with this specific person then cancel nicely.

@Phillycheesesteak

I do try palavah but it's hard work hahaha

Quite true. It would be lovely if decent men just fell out of the sky onto your sofa, but they don't.

You have to hunt them down find them.

I just noticed your username OP. I had a half of a Philly Cheesesteak sandwich for lunch today. I bought it yesterday but it was so big I couldn't finish it.

Carry On.

Hahahaha

@RhymesWithOrange

If you're apathetic about wanting a relationship then stop wasting people's time on OLD.

If you are just not feeling it with this specific person then cancel nicely.

I'm not wasting anyones time. I've changed my mind that's all

Oh I can relate to this. Very occasionally open a dating app, swipe maybe 5 people (left) and close it again 😂.

Just can’t be arsed with it. Last OLD started talking about marriage on the 1st date, and I had a devil of a job getting rid of him despite being very blunt. And he had really shit tattoos.

Cancel and find something on Netflix.

He seems nice though so wouldn't it be rude to cancel?

Come on OP, only you can decide.
If he seems nice what’s the problem?

Every man I meet appears nice then turns crazy lol

But they aren’t all like that. Be brave, give him a chance.

I tried on line dating for a few months 18 years ago. I met a few people, most were really nice. I then met someone who I fell for and we have been married for 16 years and are still happy together. Don't give up just keep looking.